Male BFF
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Anonymous
| I'm married with a kid. DH is a total loner, and spending time with me (or anyone else) makes him pissy. I'm tired of feeling rejected and really need a BFF. My whole life I've tended to have mostly guy friends, and really miss male friendship, which I don't get from DH. I have fantasies of having a male BFF who I hang out with...lunch, hiking, movies, whatever. Is this fantasy at all realistic? Is it possible to find a male BFF to hangout with who does not what to have sex? Tell me the truth, I can handle it. |
Anonymous
| You "miss" male friendships?? Something is off here. |
Anonymous
| No it’s not |
Anonymous
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Why are you hung up on having a male BFF instead of just a BFF of any gender?
I am wary of any woman who says she only gets along well with men, because you are dismissing half of the population out of hand. All of the things you mentioned doing with a "Male BFF" could be done with a woman. It is possible, but I don't think you are a good candidate. |
Anonymous
| Not unless he’s gay, but you sound like you are going into emotional affair territory. Why are you married to someone who gets “Pissy” when he’s around you? What’s the point of your marriage? |
Anonymous
This. Why are you married to this guy if he never wants to spend time with you? |
Anonymous
| Yes. Gay, celebate, or religious. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like OP is not looking for a male friend. She is looking for an AP. |
Anonymous
| It's possible if you are unattractive, or if he is gay |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t give up on him yet. Maybe he’s going through something himself. How are other aspects of his life (job, friendships, etc). Might be bigger than just not wanting to hang out with you. Either way, try starting out small and give it some time. |
Anonymous
+1. It’s possible to have platonic male friends of course, but managing the dynamics can be different, and establishing no sexual interest without tanking the friendship can be complicated. Letting a sexual interest simmer under the surface on either side is a long term problem and shouldn’t be indulged. So if you are specifically looking for a male BFF rather than female, there is a danger that the underlying sexual interest, on one side or the other, is really what you’re looking for/wanting. |
Anonymous
Honey stop lying to yourself you obviously want more than a male friend. |
Anonymous
Agree |
Anonymous
Usually women like this are damaged in some way or are seeking attention. It's just rational that you can't get along with any women. |
Anonymous
| ^edit: not rational |