A failure to plan on your end does not constitute an emergency on mine. A PSA

[Anonymous]

My son and a boy from his soccer league are attending the same soccer camp for the next couple of weeks. I regretfully agreed to drive him once a week, because they are friends and because the motto ‘it takes a village’ is constantly shoved down our throats until we choke on it. This arrangement involves me driving a couple miles out of my way, then waiting in two lines to sign in the kids, because they are now in two different age groups. Now every day it seems something comes up and the mom needs help. Today was yet another emergency. News flash: Not my problem.

Quit being a user. If someone graciously agrees to help you, don’t abuse it. And for the love of god, stop being cheap or lazy and nail down reliable care for your children. It does not ‘take a village’. It takes you doing your job as a parent.

[Anonymous]

Carpooling is good for the environment. Your DC and the other child see your commitment to the environment and learn from it.

[Anonymous]

If you can't do it say "no". It's not complicated.

[Anonymous]

If you really see this as not your problem, than talk to the parents rather than spitting in the wind here. Otherwise it is your problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can't do it say "no". It's not complicated.

Already taken care of, thanks. It’s just that you see it talked about here all the time. Clearly, parents need to get it together.

[Anonymous]

If you don’t to her directly, then you have no business complaining.

[Anonymous]

Exactly why I don’t carpool. I was burned by a user in the past and now just say no.

[Anonymous]

The level of entitlement with these users is insane. I had a mom ask me to help her with something similar. I told her I’d be glad to help and drive her son, but she would have to drop him off at my house, I wouldn’t be picking him up. She told me straight up, “I guess that helps me a little, but I really wish you could pick him up from our house. That would be more convenient.” Well, it’s more convenient for me to not schlep your kid around, so I didn’t help at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can't do it say "no". It's not complicated.

Already taken care of, thanks. It’s just that you see it talked about here all the time. Clearly, parents need to get it together.

Not really. Some parents are not as bothered as you by 2 lines and a few miles.

It bothers you. Own your own issues. It's not "justified" because there are so many precious Beckys on DCUM that agree with you.

#princessandthepea

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but don't throw "it takes a village" in with this rant. It's about a user using you - not the idea that we all look out for each other and help.

In my neighborhood, we have a disabled boy who is a teenager, but cannot care for himself. When he gets out of his yard and wanders around the neighborhood, we all (ALL OF US) when we see him either run out and guide him back to his house or call his mom and tell her Sam is walking on Main street.
My kids and their friends were caught (not by me, but by neighbors) throwing rocks at a house that was being torn down for a rebuild. The neighbors told them to stop and stood there and watched them ride their bikes away - then sent me (and I assume the other kids' parents) a text explaining what happened.

THAT's what "it takes a village" means. It doesn't mean asking neighbors to drive your kids places, babysitting in an emergency, or any other FAVOR. those are favors - not the concept of "it takes a village" which is more of a "if you see something, say something"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can't do it say "no". It's not complicated.

Already taken care of, thanks. It’s just that you see it talked about here all the time. Clearly, parents need to get it together.

Not really. Some parents are not as bothered as you by 2 lines and a few miles.

It bothers you. Own your own issues. It's not "justified" because there are so many precious Beckys on DCUM that agree with you.

#princessandthepea

It doesn’t change the fact that your lack of planning isn’t my issue to solve. Wtf!

[Anonymous]

You sound like such a miserable person. Every little thing gets you unhinged. People like you become very lonely over time. Especially when you realize you need the help of others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but don't throw "it takes a village" in with this rant. It's about a user using you - not the idea that we all look out for each other and help.

In my neighborhood, we have a disabled boy who is a teenager, but cannot care for himself. When he gets out of his yard and wanders around the neighborhood, we all (ALL OF US) when we see him either run out and guide him back to his house or call his mom and tell her Sam is walking on Main street.
My kids and their friends were caught (not by me, but by neighbors) throwing rocks at a house that was being torn down for a rebuild. The neighbors told them to stop and stood there and watched them ride their bikes away - then sent me (and I assume the other kids' parents) a text explaining what happened.

THAT's what "it takes a village" means. It doesn't mean asking neighbors to drive your kids places, babysitting in an emergency, or any other FAVOR. those are favors - not the concept of "it takes a village" which is more of a "if you see something, say something"

I’ll stop throwing it in when everyone else stops throwing it in these types of posts.

[Anonymous]

Op, do you ever get exhausted turning everything into a big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, do you ever get exhausted turning everything into a big deal?

I’m bored, it’s DCUM. You know that.