Would you leave your young teen home alone in this circumstance?

[Anonymous]

Our neighbor had a gf a year ago who called the cops on him in the middle of the night because he locked her outside in just a t-shirt and panties for refusing sex. The cops helped her get her clothing and purse and gave her a ride home. They reunited a few weeks ago but have been fighting since 5 am. I need to accompany DH to the hospital for day long testing. DD’s best friend is going on vacation for the day. At 13, DD is too old for a sitter, but I’m worried about leaving her alone all day with the volatile situation across the courtyard. She’d be bored stiff at the hospital all day. Should I just give her $50 and insist she go to the library and our version of “downtown”?

[Anonymous]

How loud is the fighting?

Can you call the cops on them?

[Anonymous]

Can you drop your husband off at the hospital, then return back to be with your child for part of the day?

How far away is the hospital and how serious are the tests? Does your husband need you there for them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you drop your husband off at the hospital, then return back to be with your child for part of the day?

How far away is the hospital and how serious are the tests? Does your husband need you there for them?

Thanks. This is where we are leaning. He will be twilight sedated for the second test so he needs a ride home and there’s a long gap between the first and second test. I like to stay, but I don’t know what’s up with these two.

It’s a loud, ugly argument, but they aren’t throwing things and I’m worried they will retaliate if we call the cops.

[Anonymous]

If he needs a ride home for the second test seems like a no brained to drop off for the first and pick up after sedation. Especially if you’re worried about your young teen and a volatile situation.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand the problem. You’re worried she’ll hear the neighbors’ argument? Or somehow be drawn into it? That the neighbors will come to your house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our neighbor had a gf a year ago who called the cops on him in the middle of the night because he locked her outside in just a t-shirt and panties for refusing sex. The cops helped her get her clothing and purse and gave her a ride home. They reunited a few weeks ago but have been fighting since 5 am. I need to accompany DH to the hospital for day long testing. DD’s best friend is going on vacation for the day. At 13, DD is too old for a sitter, but I’m worried about leaving her alone all day with the volatile situation across the courtyard. She’d be bored stiff at the hospital all day. Should I just give her $50 and insist she go to the library and our version of “downtown”?

DP Or sometimes your kid has to do something that is boring. Do you have games or a movie she could watch while at the hospital? It is only one day. Surely she can "suck it up" and do this. Or come with you and you can go to the movies for a few hours. That's another option.

[Anonymous]

Bring your teen to the hospital. She packs a bag with books, paper and pens to draw/write, an iPad or device so she can play and listen to music. There will be magazines at the hospital she could browse.

[Anonymous]

Your teen should be able to manage coming to the hospital and entertaining herself for one day!

[Anonymous]

I don't get it - your neighbors are yelling at each other so you are afraid that a 13 year old might hear them? Huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it - your neighbors are yelling at each other so you are afraid that a 13 year old might hear them? Huh?

I assume she is afraid of it escalating. Or her daughter being afraid. This woukd freak my kid out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the problem. You’re worried she’ll hear the neighbors’ argument? Or somehow be drawn into it? That the neighbors will come to your house?

Probably the fear is that someone who would lock a person out in their underwear for refusing sex is a person who might escalate that abuse into violence.

[Anonymous]

I would call the police regardless. I have been in your shoes OP and we ended up moving because the couple was insane and wouldn't leave each other alone. And they were both retired, so they had plenty of time to scream, throw things, make threats, yell, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it - your neighbors are yelling at each other so you are afraid that a 13 year old might hear them? Huh?

I assume she is afraid of it escalating. Or her daughter being afraid. This woukd freak my kid out.

Or the girlfriend might come pounding on the door, asking for help. We had volatile neighbors when I was a kid, and this happened more than once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it - your neighbors are yelling at each other so you are afraid that a 13 year old might hear them? Huh?

I assume she is afraid of it escalating. Or her daughter being afraid. This woukd freak my kid out.

Or the girlfriend might come pounding on the door, asking for help. We had volatile neighbors when I was a kid, and this happened more than once.

So don't answer the door.