Does everyone have crushes?

[Anonymous]

I am in a decent marriage nearing ten years married, 13 years together, good father. I don’t want to leave or risk ruining it but sometimes I have mad crushes on friends. I was mildly obsessed with someone I played soccer with for a while, now my daughter’s bestie’s father. Nothing has ever happened, not even obvious flirtation. This is probably normal since I haven’t had so much as a first kiss in thirteen years? Or a sign of something deeper? I think it would be insane to try to do anything about it but I still think about it a lot.

[Anonymous]

You are just looking for “new” and bored with the old..... of course a new relationship is always exciting. But when the grind sets in you are thinking of a new relationship

[Anonymous]

Can't speak for women but these are near universal in men, and frequently too.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Normal feelings

[Anonymous]

Lots of people do. Not everybody. You are normal.

[Anonymous]

Same here, OP. It’s really intense at times. I would never act on it, as I love my DH, family, and life. But yeah, it can be distracting sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s pretty normal to have an attraction but not normal to have an obsessive crush. You have to decide what it is. I’ve had a couple of attractions but I love my husband and our sex life is so good that those attractions soon fade when I realize how good I have it.

[Anonymous]

I think I must be uber monogamous. I've been married to my husband for 38 years, met him when I was 18 and can honestly say I have never had a crush on someone. Of course, I notice and admire handsome men but never felt the slightest urge to stray.

[Anonymous]

It's normal. I'm very happily married, but have had short-lived crushes on people and can acknowledge that someone is good-looking without having a crush on them. I haven't ever actually wanted to cheat on my husband. I did with my college boyfriend (didn't actually do it, though he did), but our relationship was basically dead by that point.

That said, my husband is aware that I have lifelong love for a certain famous musician (I'm literally a 12 year old girl in a 32 year old woman's body when it comes to him). He's cool with it.

[Anonymous]

Normal.

[Anonymous]

Does crush equal urge to stray?

Or does it just mean “would bang”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I must be uber monogamous. I've been married to my husband for 38 years, met him when I was 18 and can honestly say I have never had a crush on someone. Of course, I notice and admire handsome men but never felt the slightest urge to stray.

+1 I’m not blind but I’ve never had the urge or the need to stray. Yes, I’ve noticed some guys and wondered what they’d be “like” but then I move on.

[Anonymous]

Normal