Does everyone have crushes?

[Anonymous]

No. I acknowledge when someone is attractive but I have not had a crush on another person while dating/married to my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I acknowledge when someone is attractive but I have not had a crush on another person while dating/married to my husband.

So boring.

[Anonymous]

I do too. I think it’s normal and harmless as long as you don’t let yourself believe it could be real.

[Anonymous]

As long as you are not obsessive about it or let it become all consuming I don't see any problem with it. I've had a bunch of them and they don't last very long. I've never done anything like flirt with any of them because that can become a slippery slope. My love life with my husband is very robust and all of my physical and emotional needs are well taken care of so I'm in a good place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I acknowledge when someone is attractive but I have not had a crush on another person while dating/married to my husband.

So boring.

+1

[Anonymous]

Married woman here. Yes, absolutely. Variety is the spice of life.

I guess it's good for me that I know about myself that no single man on the planet could prevent me from having crushes on others after a certain length in the relationship. These crushes also pass super quickly for me as well. A month at the most in length.

I make use of them to keep my married sex life hot Not that I tell DH.

[Anonymous]

Crushes are fun, use that energy and turn it inward and aim at squarely at your spouse and you and he will both be very happy for it. No need to tell him but when you shut your eyes your brain can take you on top of any man you want.

[Anonymous]

It is best to focus your crushes on celebrities.

Just to be safe.

I love me some SNL’s Pete Davidson.

Chad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does crush equal urge to stray?

Or does it just mean “would bang”?

Would bang! Would bang! Bang bang bang bangity bang bang!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JA9MdVb6WqQ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Crushes are fun, use that energy and turn it inward and aim at squarely at your spouse and you and he will both be very happy for it. No need to tell him but when you shut your eyes your brain can take you on top of any man you want.

This always amazes me. Of course, the alternative is to live out your crush fantasy and potentially blow up your marriage, but for whatever reason it's okay to be pumping away on DH or DW, and be wishing it was someone else. Spouse is never the wiser, and the sex is likely explosive, but ultimately your mind is still elsewhere, on someone else, and you're using their body as a masturbator.

Your body may not be guilty, but your mind is. Whatever keeps you together until you're dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Crushes are fun, use that energy and turn it inward and aim at squarely at your spouse and you and he will both be very happy for it. No need to tell him but when you shut your eyes your brain can take you on top of any man you want.

This always amazes me. Of course, the alternative is to live out your crush fantasy and potentially blow up your marriage, but for whatever reason it's okay to be pumping away on DH or DW, and be wishing it was someone else. Spouse is never the wiser, and the sex is likely explosive, but ultimately your mind is still elsewhere, on someone else, and you're using their body as a masturbator.

Your body may not be guilty, but your mind is. Whatever keeps you together until you're dead.

Oh please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Crushes are fun, use that energy and turn it inward and aim at squarely at your spouse and you and he will both be very happy for it. No need to tell him but when you shut your eyes your brain can take you on top of any man you want.

This always amazes me. Of course, the alternative is to live out your crush fantasy and potentially blow up your marriage, but for whatever reason it's okay to be pumping away on DH or DW, and be wishing it was someone else. Spouse is never the wiser, and the sex is likely explosive, but ultimately your mind is still elsewhere, on someone else, and you're using their body as a masturbator.

Your body may not be guilty, but your mind is. Whatever keeps you together until you're dead.

Oh please.

DH is pining for the cute new associate at work. Fantasizes about her, pictures her naked, what he'd do to her, what she'd do to him. But at the end of the day, YOU'RE the love tunnel. And that's the important thing.

[Anonymous]

My DH has definitely benefited from my crush on Bradley Cooper but I’m not going to tell him.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have them. My desire to act on them is in direct proportion to the lack of sex in my marriage. When I am sexually clicking with spouse, they are fun. When not, they become consuming.

[Anonymous]

Crush? No.
Fantasy? Yes.