Had a play date and ...

[Anonymous]

So met up with 3 moms for a play date, our common ground is that our husbands are in the same field.

I thought it went well? We met up at one of their house’s and went for a walk around the neighborhood and then went back to the house to
chat a bit more, let the kids play.

The 3 moms live in the same suburb. I don’t. I live 30 minutes away
but my mom happens to live in the same area so driving is not a big deal

Truth be told my son is the youngest by almost a year. So the other moms have more in common with each other and I’m an outlier

Anyways. I enjoyed myself. I know they did too. Two of the moms live down the street from each other and just figured this out
by coincidence

Anyways, I texted to let them know we (child and i) had fun and I can’t wait to do it again



But it’s been crickets. No reply. ...
I sent the message around 4.

I’d like to get together with them again but I’m not going to push it.

I guess I thought from a practical point if they enjoyed themselves they’d reply back too

I overthink things.

BUT is it odd that they haven’t replied at all?

it’s a group text.

[Anonymous]

“I overthink things”

I’ll say.

[Anonymous]

Give 24 hours before letting worry surface.

[Anonymous]

Oh god, are we back to the "he didn't text me" worries, but for play dates??

They didn't text you, no big deal, no hard feelings, move on... they might text you later, they might not... there could be a million reasons. Live your life. Don't worry so much.

[Anonymous]

Since you live further away, it would be less convenient for the others if you host. And if you're not hosting, it could be seen as forward to be essentially inviting yourself over. Give it time and see if any of them issue an invitation. (And if it does become a regular thing, see if there's some way you can contribute, like bringing snacks.)

[Anonymous]

Veteran mom here. My oldest is 10.

Even my closest mom friends we don’t make plans so frequently.

I have 3 kids. I have childless friends, old coworkers, kid school friends, moms club, neighborhood kids, sports, etc.

Just wait. If they like you, you will meet again.

[Anonymous]

Did you just get together today, and attempt to innitiate another play date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Veteran mom here. My oldest is 10.

Even my closest mom friends we don’t make plans so frequently.

I have 3 kids. I have childless friends, old coworkers, kid school friends, moms club, neighborhood kids, sports, etc.

Just wait. If they like you, you will meet again.

Thanks. I’m a first time mom.
Little guy is only 4 months.

Any other tips you’ve got ?

Social ones I mean?

With my overthinking income
Off like a klutz at times

[Anonymous]

You sent the text at 4. Today.
Chill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you just get together today, and attempt to innitiate another play date?

Yes. Met up
Today.


Not sure when we will get together again

I texted as a thanks, again “can’t wait to do it again. Have a good rest of your week!”


So, no don’t plan to get together again soon but just wanted to thank them

[Anonymous]

My advice is to stop pressing "return" so often when posting here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Veteran mom here. My oldest is 10.

Even my closest mom friends we don’t make plans so frequently.

I have 3 kids. I have childless friends, old coworkers, kid school friends, moms club, neighborhood kids, sports, etc.

Just wait. If they like you, you will meet again.

Thanks. I’m a first time mom.
Little guy is only 4 months.

Any other tips you’ve got ?

Social ones I mean?

With my overthinking income
Off like a klutz at times

Try to find more local friends. Join moms club and meetup. Go to library baby story time.

Making mom friends is kind of like dating. Not everyone is going to be into you.

I have 2 elementary and a preschooler now. I have to juggle my kids’ friendships with mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“I overthink things”

I’ll say.

This. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So met up with 3 moms for a play date, our common ground is that our husbands are in the same field.

I thought it went well? We met up at one of their house’s and went for a walk around the neighborhood and then went back to the house to
chat a bit more, let the kids play.

The 3 moms live in the same suburb. I don’t. I live 30 minutes away
but my mom happens to live in the same area so driving is not a big deal

Truth be told my son is the youngest by almost a year. So the other moms have more in common with each other and I’m an outlier

Anyways. I enjoyed myself. I know they did too. Two of the moms live down the street from each other and just figured this out
by coincidence

Anyways, I texted to let them know we (child and i) had fun and I can’t wait to do it again



But it’s been crickets. No reply. ...
I sent the message around 4.

I’d like to get together with them again but I’m not going to push it.

I guess I thought from a practical point if they enjoyed themselves they’d reply back too

I overthink things.

BUT is it odd that they haven’t replied at all?

it’s a group text.

I’m sorry, but this is the nuttiest thing I have read all day.

[Anonymous]

Texting hours after the playdate and wanting to do it again soon and then being upset that you didn't hear back from them another few hours later?

Not only are you overthinking, you are also overwhelming. You just met these people, who have lived near each other for a while and have known each other a while and you are trying to insert yourself into their group like a BFF. Ease up. You've sent them a note saying that you are interested in doing this again (and you did so at least a day or two too early). Now, just wait for them to find a chance to respond and figure out when they can make time to see you again.