Had a play date and ...

[Anonymous]

This has to got to be another troll post.

[Anonymous]

The more I think about this the more I am getting pissed off. The other moms could at least practice basic manners and send a quick response of acknowledgement. Whatever happened to being polite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The more I think about this the more I am getting pissed off. The other moms could at least practice basic manners and send a quick response of acknowledgement. Whatever happened to being polite?

Do they have older kids?

I’m insanely busy this week. End of school. Summer vacations.

I haven’t even been meeting up with close friends. Last thing I would be doing is trying to hang out with a new mom with a baby who isn’t even the same age or same town as me.

Just as a reference, I met a mom last September. I invited her over in November. She invited me over in January. We went to an Easter egg hunt together in April. We met up at the playground twice in May.

What do you want from these people? Are you inviting them to something? Your text sounded like a polite thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The more I think about this the more I am getting pissed off. The other moms could at least practice basic manners and send a quick response of acknowledgement. Whatever happened to being polite?

OP here: I don’t get it. One of them “loved” my text but the other didn’t reply.
I’m not too worried just went out with two different groups this week and we plan to
meet again. The women I’m referencing in my post, I will see again since we’re in a
support group, that’s how we met. Our husbands are in the medical field and all three
of them will be moving once training is done.

[Anonymous]

^^^^ OP here: what I liked is that we’re all SAHms and we “get” the whole training process. But they will all be gone come 5 years from now but interim it’d be fun to grow with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more I think about this the more I am getting pissed off. The other moms could at least practice basic manners and send a quick response of acknowledgement. Whatever happened to being polite?

Do they have older kids?

I’m insanely busy this week. End of school. Summer vacations.

I haven’t even been meeting up with close friends. Last thing I would be doing is trying to hang out with a new mom with a baby who isn’t even the same age or same town as me.

Just as a reference, I met a mom last September. I invited her over in November. She invited me over in January. We went to an Easter egg hunt together in April. We met up at the playground twice in May.

What do you want from these people? Are you inviting them to something? Your text sounded like a polite thanks.

What I’d like is a genuine friendship. But I understand it’s easier said than done.
I SAHM and I a tribe of solidarity. I’m branching out in different ways so I’m not too worried.
The whole “putting” in effort I truly believe if I put myself
Out there things will happen and I will connect. Going to a MOPs meeting. Met up with 3 moms through a yoga group to go jogging with
and we have already scheduled to do it again next week, so there’s that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^^ OP here: what I liked is that we’re all SAHms and we “get” the whole training process. But they will all be gone come 5 years from now but interim it’d be fun to grow with.

Bruhhhhhhhh

If these are the vibes you’re putting off in real life they’re never texting you back. You live 30 minutes away and have a 4 month old. They live close together and have toddlers. They’re not looking to “grow with you” for 5 more years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^^ OP here: what I liked is that we’re all SAHms and we “get” the whole training process. But they will all be gone come 5 years from now but interim it’d be fun to grow with.

My DH is a doctor. We met when he was in med school, got married and had 1 child during residency, 1 child during fellowship and 1 child when he was an attending.

I am friends with zero wives of his colleagues during residency. They are scattered all over the country. DH sees his colleagues at professional conferences and meetings but it isn't like we are family friends. Most of his friends got married and had kids later than us.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m in medicine and I understand what it’s like to have kids during those difficult years. You are looking for friends but these women are acquaintances, friends of “convenience” but the reality is that it’s not really all that convenient to you or them, based on the kids’ ages and proximity. Your main commonality is your spouses occupation. You will meet and stay much better friends with people who have children closer in age and who are closer to you and who you click with. I feel sad for you, knowing how lonely it can be while your spouse is in training. These are hard time but it will get better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just keep at it OP you'll get there. With this group I would probably send a cute meme to the group chat next, maybe later tonight? Something innocuous but that everyone can relate to, like an "I've got a case of the Mondays" type thing. Or maybe a favorite recipe that you can fake that you just made for the family, no one has to know that you actually just heated up leftover spaghetti lol. Let me know if you need any memes.

Sorry, but this is crazy advice. I would find you seriously annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more I think about this the more I am getting pissed off. The other moms could at least practice basic manners and send a quick response of acknowledgement. Whatever happened to being polite?

OP here: I don’t get it. One of them “loved” my text but the other didn’t reply.
I’m not too worried just went out with two different groups this week and we plan to
meet again. The women I’m referencing in my post, I will see again since we’re in a
support group, that’s how we met. Our husbands are in the medical field and all three
of them will be moving once training is done.

1 like is a pretty good response for a text that merited no response.

meanwhile... you are obsessing way to much about these women you just met. You seem desperate for company and nobody likes that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just keep at it OP you'll get there. With this group I would probably send a cute meme to the group chat next, maybe later tonight? Something innocuous but that everyone can relate to, like an "I've got a case of the Mondays" type thing. Or maybe a favorite recipe that you can fake that you just made for the family, no one has to know that you actually just heated up leftover spaghetti lol. Let me know if you need any memes.

Sorry, but this is crazy advice. I would find you seriously annoying.

+1
this would be completely over the top desperate and inappropriate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WHY ARE
YOU WRITING LIKE
THIS IS A
HAIKU?!

STOP
IT!

X1000. What is wrong with you, OP?

[Anonymous]

I would ditto the encouragement to focus on moms closer to you. Driving a half hour is a pain. Also - - a year difference at 4 months is HUGE. That age gap won’t hold well - try to find friends with babies a bit closer in age.

[Anonymous]

“I don’t get it. One of them “loved” my text but the other didn’t reply. ”

It would not dawn on me that I would need to reply to your “that was fun; hope we can do it again sometime” post necessarily.