Had a play date and ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“I don’t get it. One of them “loved” my text but the other didn’t reply. ”

It would not dawn on me that I would need to reply to your “that was fun; hope we can do it again sometime” post necessarily.

Most grown-ups know how to use their words and maintain a dialogue by the time they're hosting pkaydates. Or so I thought?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“I don’t get it. One of them “loved” my text but the other didn’t reply. ”

It would not dawn on me that I would need to reply to your “that was fun; hope we can do it again sometime” post necessarily.

Most grown-ups know how to use their words and maintain a dialogue by the time they're hosting pkaydates. Or so I thought?

Here's part of the problem. Your note was not the start of or part of a dialogue. Your comment was a "thank you for inviting me" which didn't ordinarily warrant a response. Sounds like you had a healthy dialogue during the playdate; where it was appropriate to maintain the dialogue. After the playdate via text? No.

If you think that your text was the start of a dialogue, then you are one of those people with whom messages never end. If you say "thank you" and they say "You're welcome" do you automatically have to say something else? Are there comments that someone would make to you that you don't feel warrants a response? I hate these text message chains that never end. Sometimes to make the end, I just will not respond. I already spend more time than I should on my phone for things I can't avoid (work messages, messages where I'm the organizer of something, and direct questions) and my kids are often asking me to put down the phone. I sure as heck don't need or want to have text chains that won't end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WHY ARE
YOU WRITING LIKE
THIS IS A
HAIKU?!

STOP
IT!

Certain post grad fields use 1 sentence paragraphs at times. Thus, the "haiku" writers might view your lengthy paragraphs as several unrelated ideas mushed together like a stream of consciousness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The more I think about this the more I am getting pissed off. The other moms could at least practice basic manners and send a quick response of acknowledgement. Whatever happened to being polite?

Sounds typical not only of the area, but persons not vested in the area. Plus, persons who live pretty far from you and have different aged children. Don't get pissed. They might be no reply types unless a direct question is asked or you are close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WHY ARE
YOU WRITING LIKE
THIS IS A
HAIKU?!

STOP
IT!

Certain post grad fields use 1 sentence paragraphs at times. Thus, the "haiku" writers might view your lengthy paragraphs as several unrelated ideas mushed together like a stream of consciousness.

But thanks god DCUM is not limited to those few post grads.

[Anonymous]

I too hate text chains. HATE them.
If someone says 'i had a great time' i may respond 'me too' if i did or ignore if i didn't but most frequently i just ignore all together.
I don't want the constant beeping of 'yes!" 'me too', 'emoji' ...................it goes on.
Texts that are not questions do not need to be responded to.

You should have waited a day or 2. Then asked "I had a great time last week, want to meet up this week for ice cream?" or somethng like that.
THAT is a question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more I think about this the more I am getting pissed off. The other moms could at least practice basic manners and send a quick response of acknowledgement. Whatever happened to being polite?

OP here: I don’t get it. One of them “loved” my text but the other didn’t reply.
I’m not too worried just went out with two different groups this week and we plan to
meet again. The women I’m referencing in my post, I will see again since we’re in a
support group, that’s how we met. Our husbands are in the medical field and all three
of them will be moving once training is done.

There was no response required to your text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“I don’t get it. One of them “loved” my text but the other didn’t reply. ”

It would not dawn on me that I would need to reply to your “that was fun; hope we can do it again sometime” post necessarily.

Most grown-ups know how to use their words and maintain a dialogue by the time they're hosting pkaydates. Or so I thought?

Here's part of the problem. Your note was not the start of or part of a dialogue. Your comment was a "thank you for inviting me" which didn't ordinarily warrant a response. Sounds like you had a healthy dialogue during the playdate; where it was appropriate to maintain the dialogue. After the playdate via text? No.

If you think that your text was the start of a dialogue, then you are one of those people with whom messages never end. If you say "thank you" and they say "You're welcome" do you automatically have to say something else? Are there comments that someone would make to you that you don't feel warrants a response? I hate these text message chains that never end. Sometimes to make the end, I just will not respond. I already spend more time than I should on my phone for things I can't avoid (work messages, messages where I'm the organizer of something, and direct questions) and my kids are often asking me to put down the phone. I sure as heck don't need or want to have text chains that won't end.

Right. People are not required to say thank you to a thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WHY ARE
YOU WRITING LIKE
THIS IS A
HAIKU?!

STOP
IT!

Certain post grad fields use 1 sentence paragraphs at times. Thus, the "haiku" writers might view your lengthy paragraphs as several unrelated ideas mushed together like a stream of consciousness.

Which post-grad fields are so unfamiliar with that English language that the post-grads approach illiteracy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Veteran mom here. My oldest is 10.

Even my closest mom friends we don’t make plans so frequently.

I have 3 kids. I have childless friends, old coworkers, kid school friends, moms club, neighborhood kids, sports, etc.

Just wait. If they like you, you will meet again.

Thanks. I’m a first time mom.
Little guy is only 4 months.

Any other tips you’ve got ?

Social ones I mean?

With my overthinking income
Off like a klutz at times

Try to find more local friends. Join moms club and meetup. Go to library baby story time.

Making mom friends is kind of like dating. Not everyone is going to be into you.

I have 2 elementary and a preschooler now. I have to juggle my kids’ friendships with mine.

Same. I have an 11 yo and 8 yo. Sometimes you become friends with your kids friends moms, and sometimes you don’t. It’s ok. Sometimes you’ll be great friends with someone when your kids are babies and toddlers but when your kids are older and start making their own friends, you’ll find that you don’t hang out with your babyhood mom friends because your kids don’t get along or just don’t have much in common. When DCs were babies I started a book club and invited anyone in my neighborhood who was interested. It was a way for me to socialize with adults without have our kids being the common denominator.