SAHM - Does your spouse call you during the day to check on you?

[Anonymous]

I swear SH wants to be sure, I’m not “Lying around” so to speak. Yeah like laundry and cleaning is nothing.

[Anonymous]

Texts yes. But not for the reasons you say. He asks how my day is. What I'm up to. If I need him to bring anything home. We would have serious marriage problems if he was texting to make sure I wasn't laying around.

[Anonymous]

No, but we usually text during the day

[Anonymous]

No, he works from home, so I don't get to lie around eating bonbons and watching soap operas.

[Anonymous]

We text back and forth. But not about household duties. That’s just seems silly.

[Anonymous]

Wow, what a jerk. I'd not answer, and tell him that I was too busy completing various tasks to take his trifling phone calls.

[Anonymous]

No way. That would be annoying.

[Anonymous]

Could be worse. I have a friend whose husband installed cameras in their house for security purposes after a rash of burglaries in their neighborhood, but he also uses them to "spy" on her during the day.

He'll send her very passive aggressive texts like "I thought we were going to get the pantry reorganized today? But it's after 1, you have to pick up the kids soon, and Mary is still there with you. What's our game plan?" Or my personal favorite, "I'll assume since you're having cake at lunch that you'll skip having a piece after dinner, right?" I was preset for that one and it took every ounce of self control not to smack the camera with a broom or at least flip him off.

We all tell her to stick up for herself but she's very "when we discussed having kids, we picked me to stay home and him to work. He makes the money, so he sets how the house should flow and work."

[Anonymous]

OMG This is by far the creepiest thread I have read on DCUM, you people married this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be worse. I have a friend whose husband installed cameras in their house for security purposes after a rash of burglaries in their neighborhood, but he also uses them to "spy" on her during the day.

He'll send her very passive aggressive texts like "I thought we were going to get the pantry reorganized today? But it's after 1, you have to pick up the kids soon, and Mary is still there with you. What's our game plan?" Or my personal favorite, "I'll assume since you're having cake at lunch that you'll skip having a piece after dinner, right?" I was preset for that one and it took every ounce of self control not to smack the camera with a broom or at least flip him off.

We all tell her to stick up for herself but she's very "when we discussed having kids, we picked me to stay home and him to work. He makes the money, so he sets how the house should flow and work."

This is insane. WTH does she put up with it?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Texts yes. But not for the reasons you say. He asks how my day is. What I'm up to. If I need him to bring anything home. We would have serious marriage problems if he was texting to make sure I wasn't laying around.

Ditto. Every once in a while, he will ask me to do something that he forgot to do, like drop something at UPS or the dry cleaner. It is never to check up on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could be worse. I have a friend whose husband installed cameras in their house for security purposes after a rash of burglaries in their neighborhood, but he also uses them to "spy" on her during the day.

He'll send her very passive aggressive texts like "I thought we were going to get the pantry reorganized today? But it's after 1, you have to pick up the kids soon, and Mary is still there with you. What's our game plan?" Or my personal favorite, "I'll assume since you're having cake at lunch that you'll skip having a piece after dinner, right?" I was preset for that one and it took every ounce of self control not to smack the camera with a broom or at least flip him off.

We all tell her to stick up for herself but she's very "when we discussed having kids, we picked me to stay home and him to work. He makes the money, so he sets how the house should flow and work."

This is insane. WTH does she put up with it?!

I can tell you right now that will not end well.

I work from home (so not the same but I'm the default parent and home manager) and we text and call through out the day but he's not telling me what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be worse. I have a friend whose husband installed cameras in their house for security purposes after a rash of burglaries in their neighborhood, but he also uses them to "spy" on her during the day.

He'll send her very passive aggressive texts like "I thought we were going to get the pantry reorganized today? But it's after 1, you have to pick up the kids soon, and Mary is still there with you. What's our game plan?" Or my personal favorite, "I'll assume since you're having cake at lunch that you'll skip having a piece after dinner, right?" I was preset for that one and it took every ounce of self control not to smack the camera with a broom or at least flip him off.

We all tell her to stick up for herself but she's very "when we discussed having kids, we picked me to stay home and him to work. He makes the money, so he sets how the house should flow and work."

This is truly f'ed up. My mom was a stay-at-home even though she has a BA from an Ivy and a Masters from Stanford because that was the decision my parents made together. They got married in the 60s so it made sense as she would not have had the same career trajectory as a married mother back then (dad has similar credentials). And, my parents are very old fashioned still in household roles even though they are now in their 80s. BUT my dad would never, ever have tried to micromanage my mom that way. That is appalling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be worse. I have a friend whose husband installed cameras in their house for security purposes after a rash of burglaries in their neighborhood, but he also uses them to "spy" on her during the day.

He'll send her very passive aggressive texts like "I thought we were going to get the pantry reorganized today? But it's after 1, you have to pick up the kids soon, and Mary is still there with you. What's our game plan?" Or my personal favorite, "I'll assume since you're having cake at lunch that you'll skip having a piece after dinner, right?" I was preset for that one and it took every ounce of self control not to smack the camera with a broom or at least flip him off.

We all tell her to stick up for herself but she's very "when we discussed having kids, we picked me to stay home and him to work. He makes the money, so he sets how the house should flow and work."

You should have flipped him off!

[Anonymous]

No, we barely text.