SAHM - Does your spouse call you during the day to check on you?

[Anonymous]

To check on me? No. He might call or text to say when he'll be home or have a specific question but that's about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could be worse. I have a friend whose husband installed cameras in their house for security purposes after a rash of burglaries in their neighborhood, but he also uses them to "spy" on her during the day.

He'll send her very passive aggressive texts like "I thought we were going to get the pantry reorganized today? But it's after 1, you have to pick up the kids soon, and Mary is still there with you. What's our game plan?" Or my personal favorite, "I'll assume since you're having cake at lunch that you'll skip having a piece after dinner, right?" I was preset for that one and it took every ounce of self control not to smack the camera with a broom or at least flip him off.

We all tell her to stick up for herself but she's very "when we discussed having kids, we picked me to stay home and him to work. He makes the money, so he sets how the house should flow and work."

This is insane. WTH does she put up with it?!

Unless she has some kind of source of income or thinks she'd do well in a divorce settlement, what choice does she have? Doesn't sound like that kind of guy would agree to counseling...

Also sounds like that kind of guy probably put together a solid prenup in his favor.

[Anonymous]

I text DW to alert her as to which depraved way I intend to hit it that night.

[Anonymous]

Why would he......I’m not a freaking toddler.

[Anonymous]

The DH that installed cameras and texts his wife sounds like a crazed control freak. Monitoring her daily tasks and telling her not to have dessert? She is a grown ass woman. Sounds like manipulative abuse to me. He sets the rules, she agrees to them, he makes the money. I’m sorry for your friend. Keep an eye on her and the kids.

[Anonymous]

What? No of course not. He calls during his lunch break so we can catch up on what happened during our day. Some days that’s really the only time we can discuss things if we have too many kid activities in the evening or he is traveling.

[Anonymous]

Why would men waste their time with this? I can easily review her performance when I get home.

[Anonymous]

My husband always texts about once a day to make sure we're all ok. I swear he thinks I can't handle 2 toddler's.

[Anonymous]

No. We sometimes chat via text. We agreed that I stay at home so he can hustle and make money, and that is what he is busy worrying about.

[Anonymous]

When my husband was the stay at home parent I used to call or text when I was halfway home (changing trains) so he'd know the timing for dinner.

[Anonymous]

Hey texts to say hello and check in. He’s not checking up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, what a jerk. I'd not answer, and tell him that I was too busy completing various tasks to take his trifling phone calls.

jesus! that ^^^^ is a bit over the top, don't you think? All OP said was that her DH calls her during the day to "check on her". You took quite the leap by calling him a jerk, when you know nothing about him, or for that matter and perhaps more importantly you know zero about OP.

her reaction to him calling her during the day actually says more about her - she is feeling insecure about her life right now. She doesn't like where she is right now in terms of her accomplishments. yet here you are beating up her DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I swear SH wants to be sure, I’m not “Lying around” so to speak. Yeah like laundry and cleaning is nothing.

what's REALLY going on with you OP. This is not about your DH. look inward.

[Anonymous]

He calls to ask me if he needs to get dinner or make dinner when he comes back home. I am allowed lazy days whenever I feel like. Today was one of those days.

[Anonymous]

Mine text or calls most days when he can or if I am in the pick up lane we talk. He doesn't care what I do all day and if i want to nap all day because of health issues he'll just call and see if i want him to pick up dinner.