My husband doesn't talk to me unless he's home
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Anonymous
| If he's at work, he doesn't respond to any emails and will barely spare two seconds to talk to me on the phone while he's picking up lunch. (I work too, so it's not like I have all day to chit-chat, but sometimes I have something important to discuss.) When he's on a trip (either for business or say, to attend a friend's wedding) he doesn't call or email the entire time he's gone. We've been married for 20 years and we have two teenage kids. He's been on a work trip for three days now and hasn't once checked in. I sent him a message on the first day saying 'how's Chicago' and I haven't heard back. We're in the middle of trying to buy a house so I need his feedback on OH listings coming up this weekend but I'm just annoyed and and upset and don't even want to send him stuff. Obviously I should have gotten used to this by now but it still hurts every time it happens. Are a lot of spouses/husbands like this? |
Anonymous
| Sorry I meant two minutes, not two seconds. |
Anonymous
| My DH is totally the same. My dad was not. Will follow to see what others say. |
Anonymous
Yep, my DH is just like this, too. 
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Anonymous
| Affair? |
Anonymous
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Ouch. That would very much bother me.
I would text: WHY are you not texting back?? And when he comes home, I would tell him how much it bothers you. |
Anonymous
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Have you ever told him that this is a problem?
(I mean, it’s bizarre.) |
Anonymous
+1 Agree you should tell him. Even if it’s totally innocent, it’s not okay if it bothers you so much. He needs to know that. Also weird him being MIA if you’re in the middle of buying property. My DH and I each travel about 2-3 times a year for work and we never go more than a day without speaking. If the trip schedule is really hectic it’s sometimes just a short call before going to bed. If there’s really no time to speak (esp if in a different time zone) we’ll definitely be texting. It’s not about checking up on the other person, we just like to talk to each other! 
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Anonymous
| He's definitely cheating |
Anonymous
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No my DH checks in a lot when he's gone. Morning and night.
I think you need to talk to him at a non-travel time and just ask for check ins at regular times. |
Anonymous
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I think it’s kind of weird. Dh and I have been together for 10 years and have never gone a full day without speaking to each other. Most days we check in at some point during the work day about plans for the evening with the kids, dinner, etc.
My sisters husband is a road warrior - on the road 2-4 days a week. They talk so much I make fun of them. They have been together for over 12 years and he is older so it’s not an age thing either. |
Anonymous
| We text 20 times a day regardless of who is where. |
Anonymous
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I’m kind of like this, I could easily not check in from a work trip. I usually do though and certainly would if he texted me. Reason is work trip is like one long work day.
Don’t bother with the open houses, just go to the ones you like. If you see a house you think you’ll both really like don’t wait for the open anyway. |
Anonymous
| DH hates talking on the phone to me but will text. |
Anonymous
| DH is rude and passive aggressive. How hard is it to just respond to a text? This isn’t normal. |