Wife cyberstalking college bf...not sure how to feel about it.
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Anonymous
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So my wife goes to Orange Theory fitness multiple times per week for their early morning classes. Her college ex happened to start going to her location. He doesn’t even live in the same town but must work in the area. Anyway, she’s been cyberstalking him multiple times over the last few months - Facebook, google, property tax records, LinkedIn, etc. I noticed that she periodically searches other ex’s as well.
Like the title says, I’m not sure how I feel about this. We’ve been married 16 years and we don’t have a perfect relationship but its still a good one. We’re in great financial shape, both fit, have a really good hearted teen - but, maybe its all a bit boring? Anyway, I’d like some honest input from others on the forum. |
Anonymous
| It's pure curiosity. I do it too, and I have no longing for any of my ex's. I'm just curious. FWIW I used to cyberstalk DH's ex's too. |
Anonymous
| Curiosity. Probably a little bored. I wouldn’t worry too much. |
Anonymous
| Why are you looking st her browser history? |
Anonymous
| I look up my ex too. I wouldn't worry about this. |
Anonymous
| Wife here. I'm happy in my marriage. If I look up anyone from my past, it's only out of curiosity so I can say to myself, "definitely made the right choice by dumping that dude." |
Anonymous
| Why are you looking at her browser history? |
Anonymous
Same. I am also really nosy. |
Anonymous
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Are you cyberstalking her? Looking at browser histories, etc?
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Anonymous
| Oh she is cheating. If the genders were reversed on your post, you would get the real low down. Sorry dude. |
Anonymous
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I wouldn't be comfortable with my wife working out with her ex
Too easy to imagine bad scenarios that just seem like coming back from a fitness class freshly showered and dressed |
Anonymous
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I am happily married and NEVER EVER look up old flames. Ask your wife why she does it.
My honest opinion, if she told you about her ex and the class, she wants you to be jealous. I am not a fan of that type of thing but have seen it a lot. She wants YOU to want her. Make it happen Captain. Flattery WILL get you somewhere. |
Anonymous
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I do this from time to time. Super happily married. Also super nosy.
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Anonymous
| It’s just curiosity. Don’t let it bother you. |
Anonymous
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if we are to believe your story, she's not fully into you or the marriage right now. she's snooping around, looking up not just this one ex-BF but others exes as well.
you better believe that she's going to test the waters. |