Wife cyberstalking college bf...not sure how to feel about it.

[Anonymous]

Also, send her a text to let her know you are thinking of her.

[Anonymous]

Don’t know about your wife but I’ve googled all my exes. Even learned a lot about one who has a unique name and whose family has had a difficult time. But I have no interest in rekindling anything with any of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Original Poster here. A few people have mentioned upping my game. Any suggestions?

Lift weights. Dress more fashionably.

[Anonymous]

I google exes and random friends all the time out of curiosity. It doesn't mean I want to be with them. I'm just nosy. That said, I can see why it bothers you. But that doesn't mean it's anything to worry about.

[Anonymous]

I can see why you're concerned but she could just be curious too. I cyberstalk all sorts of random people I have zero interest in... exes from many years ago that I actually can't believe I even dated (ew), exes' spouses/exes, random cute guy who was in my Accounting course in college 15 years ago that I never even spoke to, that one girl who was mean to me in high school... I am just nosy.

[Anonymous]

OP, as you can see from this thread, women are nosy AF. My DW is the same, she would say something if she me searching ex's on my browser history. She's also the type to go through everything with a fine tooth comb.

Nothing escapes a nosy DW!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh she is cheating. If the genders were reversed on your post, you would get the real low down. Sorry dude.

^^TRUTH

[Anonymous]

It’s human nature to be curious, and technology makes it so easy. Don’t worry.

[Anonymous]

She is not cheating. Good lord.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Original Poster here. A few people have mentioned upping my game. Any suggestions?

1) pay attention to her
2) take her out ... make all the plans yourself.
3) plan a vacation (can be a weekend)
4) buy her something ... this can be small, like her favorite chocolate or flowers or a Pez dispenser. Something to let her know you are thinking of her.
5) TALK to her. WITH her.
6) Listen to her.
7) do something NEW with her.

I don't know ... what does she like?

Thank you for the list. I do quite a few of these but could certainly improve on others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Original Poster here. A few people have mentioned upping my game. Any suggestions?

Lift weights. Dress more fashionably.

Thanks for this. Like I said in my original post, we’re both pretty fit. I lift 4-5 days a week at lunch and road bike on the weekends. I’m managing calories and macros on a phone app called lose it. I usually stay between 10-12% body fat. Any more “fit” for a 47 year old might seem obsessive.

I’m reasonably stylish. I have the ubiquitous hipster haircut (shaved on the sides, parted on the side) and decent sense of not wearing dad clothes. Although, I think it would be fun to go out at “Dad Max” - crocs w socks, tucked in polo w braided belt, fanny pack, gigantic molestache, etc.

[Anonymous]

The orange theory part would be more concerning.

[Anonymous]

I’ve looked up some of my exes and I am pleased to see that, after breaking my heart and screwing me over, they went on to marry much less attractive women. Flame me all you want, but it makes me feel better.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one weirded out at the number of married folks digging into their ex's business? FB, sure. But property tax records??

[Anonymous]

I look up old GF’s just for fun but I don’t know many of their married names. If I come across a picture I’m almost always incredibly happy with my choice!