Wife cyberstalking college bf...not sure how to feel about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a HUGE cyberstalker of exes. I don't find this concerning in the least. Happily married - just nosy AF.

+1. And I don’t limit it to men. Girls I used to know too. I’m so good at it, DH jokes I should work for the IC.

Ditto. DH does it, too, but I am way better. It is just rampant curiosity. There is no threat to our marriage.

[Anonymous]

She's just being nosy. I google old contacts sometimes. I wouldn't worry too much, but do work on the marriage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Original Poster here. A few people have mentioned upping my game. Any suggestions?

Lift weights. Dress more fashionably.

Thanks for this. Like I said in my original post, we’re both pretty fit. I lift 4-5 days a week at lunch and road bike on the weekends. I’m managing calories and macros on a phone app called lose it. I usually stay between 10-12% body fat. Any more “fit” for a 47 year old might seem obsessive.

I’m reasonably stylish. I have the ubiquitous hipster haircut (shaved on the sides, parted on the side) and decent sense of not wearing dad clothes. Although, I think it would be fun to go out at “Dad Max” - crocs w socks, tucked in polo w braided belt, fanny pack, gigantic molestache, etc.

You sound like a great guy with a sense of humor. Sign up for a class at the gym with the hottest instructor at the same time as their "coincidental" class or workout. Clearly they're not ignoring each other at the gym. Shake it up and show up with fresh clothes for you and your wife, shower after workout and tell her you want to take her out for the night, then rock her world. You're likely more attractive and fit than him, remind her of this!

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It’s curiosity.

She might also want to know who’s doing better in life. Sometimes when I see an ex still working at a crap job in a lame I get smug sense of doing so much better. Other times when I see someone who’s doing I feel more motivated to step up my game in my own life.

I don’t know why I feel this sense of competitiveness, but I do.

[Anonymous]

She is disappointed and bored by the OP. She wants to go back and change how her live turned out...and that life does not include OP.

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NP - I’m sure that for generations people were curious about what became of their ex’s but now with social media there is a way to find out about them. I don’t see anything wrong with this unless it become obsessive.

[Anonymous]

the problem isn't her looking up old exs. Its that she is checking out all social media about one particular ex, who also happens to workout with her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curiosity. Probably a little bored. I wouldn’t worry too much.

It’s probably harmless and will pass soon. If you once in a while fantasize about some hot actress while having s*x, it’s harmless, no? Doesn’t mean you think you don’t want to be with your wife or are thinking of divorce.