How would you feel about preschool teacher saying this?

[Anonymous]

DD's part-time nanny is a former preschool teacher and FANTASTIC. DD's preschool teacher sees nanny at pick-up and knows she's a former teacher because I mentioned it, but it's not like they are friends or even chat as teacher keeps pick-up really brief. Long story short, nanny went to one of DD's preschool activities so teacher saw nanny "in action" and apparently, teacher liked what she saw and suggested to nanny that she apply for a job at DD's preschool, mentioning they were taking applications. Teacher is essentially encouraging nanny to quit her job with us and I feel like that crossed a line. Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

[Anonymous]

Get the whole story from the teacher before judging.

-Parent and teacher

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it crossed a line. She probably was trying to do your nanny a favor by mentioning it. It’s not like she is the Director of the preschool trying to recruit her away.

[Anonymous]

Does your nanny contract have a non-compete clause? Even still, it's fair game for the preschool to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

[Anonymous]

I’d be annoyed, but otoh would it be a step up for your nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD's part-time nanny is a former preschool teacher and FANTASTIC. DD's preschool teacher sees nanny at pick-up and knows she's a former teacher because I mentioned it, but it's not like they are friends or even chat as teacher keeps pick-up really brief. Long story short, nanny went to one of DD's preschool activities so teacher saw nanny "in action" and apparently, teacher liked what she saw and suggested to nanny that she apply for a job at DD's preschool, mentioning they were taking applications. Teacher is essentially encouraging nanny to quit her job with us and I feel like that crossed a line. Am I wrong?

Yes. You are wrong
#notallaboutyou

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

Wait, who's traumatizing the kids? Traumatize?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

Traumatize? Oh boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD's part-time nanny is a former preschool teacher and FANTASTIC. DD's preschool teacher sees nanny at pick-up and knows she's a former teacher because I mentioned it, but it's not like they are friends or even chat as teacher keeps pick-up really brief. Long story short, nanny went to one of DD's preschool activities so teacher saw nanny "in action" and apparently, teacher liked what she saw and suggested to nanny that she apply for a job at DD's preschool, mentioning they were taking applications. Teacher is essentially encouraging nanny to quit her job with us and I feel like that crossed a line. Am I wrong?

Yes. You are wrong
#notallaboutyou

I know it's not about me. It's about DD. She's only 3 FFS and doesn't need this kind of trauma. I wouldn't mind if nanny ended up working at a different school so DD wouldn't have to see her with other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

It's the teachers responsibility to provide for the students best they can while students are in their care. That includes hiring the most qualified staff etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

Traumatize? Oh boy.

Oh you give me a break. How would you feel if one of your parents was no longer your parent, but you had to see him or her every day parenting other kids? Nanny is that important to DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD's part-time nanny is a former preschool teacher and FANTASTIC. DD's preschool teacher sees nanny at pick-up and knows she's a former teacher because I mentioned it, but it's not like they are friends or even chat as teacher keeps pick-up really brief. Long story short, nanny went to one of DD's preschool activities so teacher saw nanny "in action" and apparently, teacher liked what she saw and suggested to nanny that she apply for a job at DD's preschool, mentioning they were taking applications. Teacher is essentially encouraging nanny to quit her job with us and I feel like that crossed a line. Am I wrong?

Yes. You are wrong
#notallaboutyou

I know it's not about me. It's about DD. She's only 3 FFS and doesn't need this kind of trauma. I wouldn't mind if nanny ended up working at a different school so DD wouldn't have to see her with other kids.

It's her NANNY, not her MOTHER! Holy cripes, I feel like I'm in the middle of a bad movie and OP is played by Meryl Streep.

[Anonymous]

Wow.