Crowd sourcing how to arrange room sharing situation- pregnant with 4th

[Anonymous]

This is a smart, accomplished group so wanted to get insight before spending lots of time and money on a solution.

Problem: We live in an older 4 bedroom house with DS 6, DD 4, DS 2 1/2. A new baby boy is coming this July. Each kid currently has their own bedroom, but we want let the baby have his own (small) room while we double up two of the older kids. Both rooms the kids would share are equally large. So, do we:

A- buy bunk beds (cost of about $1,500) to bunk the boys together (age 6 and 2 1/2) knowing that we hope to buy a house with 5 bedrooms in next three years and bunks may not be used that long. However, brothers get along great and both are great sleepers.

B- use the preexisting twin beds to put the 4 year old and 2 1/2 year old together? However, they are close in age (18 months apart) and my daughter often bosses and controls the younger one, who is more passive and introverted. Worried that this is setting ourselves up for long term therapy issues for younger boy. Also, will make bedtimes much harder for awhile.

C- other unthought of option?

Thanks everyone!

[Anonymous]

I'd do the two boys together.

[Anonymous]

It's mean to take their separate rooms away. It isn't their fault you're having another kid. Keep him in your room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's mean to take their separate rooms away. It isn't their fault you're having another kid. Keep him in your room.

Oh FFS. Kids don't automatically get their own rooms. And they will have five BR soon enough. Put the boys who get along together and don't think of it again. The bunk beds are nice to have, even as kids get older, for sleepovers and extra guests.

[Anonymous]

Bunk Beds. Even if you get the bigger house, you may want to keep the bunk beds in one of their rooms. They may like sharing, you never know!

[Anonymous]

The boys share. You can get bunk beds that can also be used as 2 twin beds so that when you get a larger house you don't have ot buy new beds.

[Anonymous]

Have the boys share

[Anonymous]

Put the older two together in the existing twin beds. Then they can keep things like legos safe from the little ones.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious why you wouldn't keep the baby in with you? Especially if you know it won't be for long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious why you wouldn't keep the baby in with you? Especially if you know it won't be for long.

My DH has sleep issues and can never sleep with babies past about 3 months when they start getting louder. Maybe I should kick him out and bunk him up with a kid instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put the older two together in the existing twin beds. Then they can keep things like legos safe from the little ones.

Thanks for the thought but this is not an option. They're both big personalities and cannot tolerate sharing a room!

[Anonymous]

Can't 6 and 2 share whatever room can fit the twin beds? Or buy cheap IKEA bunkbeds (I think this is what I would choose).

[Anonymous]

I’d use the twin beds. While bunk beds sometimes go well, I’ve also seen kids develop an aversion to sleeping so high. Safer bet to use the twins.

[Anonymous]

Bigger house. I would not put young kids on a bunk bed. Maybe get cheap Ikea on where you can put a mattress on the floor for a little one.

I'd put the youngest two in the biggest room and give the older two their own rooms.

[Anonymous]

I may be missing something obvious but why not put the two boys together in the twin bed room, sister gets her own room, baby gets his own room for now? FWIW, it's ridiculous to suggest there's anything wrong with having kids share a room. I shared a room with my sister until she left for college (and with both brother and sister until we were 3/5/8!) and I am unscarred.