Why won't my spouse accept the fact I want a divorce? WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Have told spouse for three years our marriage is hopeless because our massive differences are never going to be resolved. This has been ignored. No children still at home. I am under the impression that the only thing that is going to work is packing everything and leaving. Any other ways to end this? To make matters worse, am unemployed and just received an out of state offer.

[Anonymous]

Because you haven't gone through with it, duh. What are you waiting for? Are you expecting alimony on a silver platter or something, and all the paperwork done for you?

[Anonymous]

See a lawyer. Begin the process to file for divorce. You haven’t done this so your spouse isn’t taking you seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:See a lawyer. Begin the process to file for divorce. You haven’t done this so your spouse isn’t taking you seriously.

OP: this is insanity. So unless you pull the trigger, they think you are bluffing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:See a lawyer. Begin the process to file for divorce. You haven’t done this so your spouse isn’t taking you seriously.

OP: this is insanity. So unless you pull the trigger, they think you are bluffing?

Of course. Let's say you've been saying for years you plan to take up tennis. Until you at least go out and buy a racket and some balls, people will assume you're bluffing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:See a lawyer. Begin the process to file for divorce. You haven’t done this so your spouse isn’t taking you seriously.

OP: this is insanity. So unless you pull the trigger, they think you are bluffing?

You have been bluffing so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:See a lawyer. Begin the process to file for divorce. You haven’t done this so your spouse isn’t taking you seriously.

OP: this is insanity. So unless you pull the trigger, they think you are bluffing?

You have been bluffing so far.

OP: I have never heard of anything like this. Don't divorces usually occur because a couple discusses splitting, both hire lawyers, and one files the papers. If it is this batcrazy now, my concern is a drawn out fight will result in both of us having no money and the lawyers laughing to the bank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:See a lawyer. Begin the process to file for divorce. You haven’t done this so your spouse isn’t taking you seriously.

OP: this is insanity. So unless you pull the trigger, they think you are bluffing?

You have been bluffing so far.

OP: I have never heard of anything like this. Don't divorces usually occur because a couple discusses splitting, both hire lawyers, and one files the papers. If it is this batcrazy now, my concern is a drawn out fight will result in both of us having no money and the lawyers laughing to the bank.

If people both mutually want to divorce then that conversation would take place beforehand but when the divorce is being driven by one person, that conversation often takes place after one person has taken action. Filing the paperwork is a start. Then your spouse knows you actually do want a divorce and you plan to make that happen and at that point, they may engage more. If for 3 years you say you are going to lose weight but you never diet or exercise and never lose a pound, no one is going to take you too seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:See a lawyer. Begin the process to file for divorce. You haven’t done this so your spouse isn’t taking you seriously.

OP: this is insanity. So unless you pull the trigger, they think you are bluffing?

[Anonymous]

Have you filed?

[Anonymous]

Are you still sleeping together?

[Anonymous]

OP it seems like you havent given this enough thought. Your grown kids will still be deeply affected and there are a great many downsides so just go take the out-of-town job and see what happens frm a separation of convenience.

[Anonymous]

You are all talk and no action....ofcourse your DH doesn’t believe you.

[Anonymous]

Take the job and move out. Split the money, give him the house, done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Are you still sleeping together?

I think we all know the answer to that question.