Sister and BIL just leased a luxury SUV I know they can’t afford

[Anonymous]

The payment is easily $1,000 per month. I am fairly certain they did this because they’re going to pay the first few months and then cry poor to my parents, and hustle them into paying the note to protect their credit scores. How would you handle this? My parents admire how frugal and responsible my husband and I live, but will then turn around and cover my sister. I mean, should we go lease Range Rovers too? It’s shameful.

[Anonymous]

It sucks, but it's really not your business.

[Anonymous]

MYOB

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t handle it. It’s their business..

[Anonymous]

Not your money. Not your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sucks, but it's really not your business.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Just don’t lend them money.

[Anonymous]

Therapy so you learn to move past resentment.

[Anonymous]

let it go

think of your own happiness instead

you be the better person

[Anonymous]

What kind of Range Rover did they lease? The dealer in Bethesda has Evoque's for $399/month and the Velar for $499 if you feel like you need one too. We test drove the Evoque and didn't like it but I guess others do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of Range Rover did they lease? The dealer in Bethesda has Evoque's for $399/month and the Velar for $499 if you feel like you need one too. We test drove the Evoque and didn't like it but I guess others do.

It’s a big fancy one. It’s over $1,000 a month.

[Anonymous]

People like you are why there is so much tension in extended families. You predict a problem and then predict an outcome both options featuring the worst of them. Nice. Even if you end up being correct why is this something you are involved in again???

[Anonymous]

Do you live near your parents? You could sign up for a Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University class and invite them to join you. Attending that might open their eyes to the path to nowhere that your sibling is on.

[Anonymous]

OP, here’s the answer you really want:

“Oh wow. That’s a really fancy car. Did Bob get a raise?”

“Mom, you should see the car Midge and Bob just leased. Looks like they will be the ones picking up the check at dinner from now on.”

“Nice car, Midge. It must feel so good to be able to take care of big purchases like that on your own. Builds a wonderful sense of pride.”

Wallow in these, OP. And then say nothing.

[Anonymous]

OP, we pretty much all have a sibling, cousin, or friend who is like this. It is common. Yes you secretely judge, but outwardly MYOB. Nothing you can do or should do.