Sister and BIL just leased a luxury SUV I know they can’t afford

[Anonymous]

Other than a generic comment to your mother about "I think they take advantage of your wonderful generosity" it's best to keep out of it. It's their money.

[Anonymous]

On the one hand, all the posters are correct in saying to MYOB, but come on. What her sister is doing is not okay.

Would you feel comfortable asking your parents why they are always bailing sister out? Do they also give money to you/your kids? If they don’t, can you call them out on it?

[Anonymous]

You will be so much happier when you learn to mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

How, exactly, do you know they can't afford the car? Is it because you see their paychecks along with their monthly expenditures?

Yeah, didn't think so.

MYOB and don't be such a b!tch.

[Anonymous]

How do you even know that they will “hustle” your parents into making the payments? How are you privy to these things?

If it’s because your mom is telling you, then you need to shut that down. “Mom, it’s your choice to help Larla. And it’s none of my business. If you don’t want to do it, then don’t. And if you do, then do. But it’s not a topic of conversation for us.”

[Anonymous]

Op I get you. This is exactly how it is with my husbands parents and sister (even the parents have hit us up for money a time or two even though we as civil servants make less than lawyer dad and sis). It’s shitty. But try not to dwell. It’ll always be something, and I’ve worked hard to not let it get to me. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op I get you. This is exactly how it is with my husbands parents and sister (even the parents have hit us up for money a time or two even though we as civil servants make less than lawyer dad and sis). It’s shitty. But try not to dwell. It’ll always be something, and I’ve worked hard to not let it get to me. Good luck!

Yeah, that's called projecting and is unlikely to be pertinent here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the one hand, all the posters are correct in saying to MYOB, but come on. What her sister is doing is not okay.

Would you feel comfortable asking your parents why they are always bailing sister out? Do they also give money to you/your kids? If they don’t, can you call them out on it?

It’s between her sister and parents regardless if it’s okay or not.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should spend more. Research shows that people who spend more money are happier. And you have your parents to jump in and help. Win win win.

[Anonymous]

Did nobody pick up on this probably not being the sister (what kind of gal picks out a big truck?) but likely a mooching piece of s*** brother-in-law getting over on OP's sister and parents? I'd bet $100 the sister co-signed or outright signed for the lease.

This thread seems to have brought out quite a few triggered moochers. I'll be damned if any sibling or in-law jams my parents for a freaking $1,000 plus luxury Range Rover payment. That's elderly abuse and/or stealing from my inheritance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op I get you. This is exactly how it is with my husbands parents and sister (even the parents have hit us up for money a time or two even though we as civil servants make less than lawyer dad and sis). It’s shitty. But try not to dwell. It’ll always be something, and I’ve worked hard to not let it get to me. Good luck!

Yeah, that's called projecting and is unlikely to be pertinent here.

Enough with these unhelpful “projecting” remarks—pp gave a legitimate suggestion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will be so much happier when you learn to mind your own business.

+1 Amen to this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will be so much happier when you learn to mind your own business.

+1 Amen to this!

2nd. Stop counting other people’s money.

[Anonymous]

Just focus on your parents and ensuring that they have adequate management of their resources. Maybe preemptively ask them now “Well now that taxes are done, are you okay with everything in your financial planning? If you’re finding that you need some help planning for future needs, etc I can help you get some names of planners who can help. We’re frugal because we know there can be unexpected emergencies and I just want to be sure you’ll be okay. I offered the same to Larla but they seem to have different priorities about being financially responsible.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of Range Rover did they lease? The dealer in Bethesda has Evoque's for $399/month and the Velar for $499 if you feel like you need one too. We test drove the Evoque and didn't like it but I guess others do.

It’s a big fancy one. It’s over $1,000 a month.

Which "big fancy one" is over $1,000/month on a lease? Even the biggest Mercedes SUV (GLS) leases for $800/month unless you get the largest engine.