Do you miss your ex even if you’re over them?

[Anonymous]

Do you ever stop loving someone? Do you miss them even if you don’t want to be with them? I need some sound advice.

[Anonymous]

No I don't miss a single ex. When I was newly out of relationship, yes I missed them. Once I was in a better relationship, not at all.

[Anonymous]

I do not miss any of my exes at all.

I hardly even remember what it was like being with them, I’m a totally different person.

[Anonymous]

Interestingly enough, I missed my ex the other day when I was doing an activity that normally we would have done together. It's been a long time so I was surprised by that feeling, but the activity was something we both loved and put a lot of energy into and was a huge part of our lives

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interestingly enough, I missed my ex the other day when I was doing an activity that normally we would have done together. It's been a long time so I was surprised by that feeling, but the activity was something we both loved and put a lot of energy into and was a huge part of our lives

Sex?

[Anonymous]

I miss my ex so much it is driving me insane still. It makes me sick to my stomach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I miss my ex so much it is driving me insane still. It makes me sick to my stomach.

If you don’t mind me asking, why did you guys break up if you still love each other?

[Anonymous]

No. Sometimes I might remember the good sex we had a bit wistfully, or the things we did together...but that’s more about missing my lost youth than missing them. The pain and longing is gone. I might occasionally feel curious about what happened to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Sometimes I might remember the good sex we had a bit wistfully, or the things we did together...but that’s more about missing my lost youth than missing them. The pain and longing is gone. I might occasionally feel curious about what happened to them.

Just to add - these were not marriages, though. They were LTRs, and many years ago, before I met my DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever stop loving someone? Do you miss them even if you don’t want to be with them? I need some sound advice.

I used to think this was true after ending my first serious relationship. I didn't think it was possible to ever not love him after feeling so intensely for him, despite not wanting to be with him. Then when I fell in love again, the previous relationship seemed like amateur hour love-wise. It didn't even compare and now while I care for him I definitely do not feel love.

It's really a matter of time.

[Anonymous]

I am newly divorced (18 months since we separated in word, 7 since he moved out). We were together 15 years. I do not miss him per se but I do miss having a person, and also the idea of being an intact family unit. I sometimes feel like a misfit in a world made for couples / families now. Kid events are really difficult. I don’t miss being his romantic partner in the least though. So I guess my answer is kind of?

[Anonymous]

This makes me question if I ever really loved anyone.

I’m one of the PPs and can barely remember being with my exes even though at the time i definitely said “I love you” but now I look back and could never imagine dating them again. I don’t even know if I would say Hi if i saw them on the street. We aren’t even friends. Not even because we hate each other but because we don’t know each other, we are strangers.

[Anonymous]

I never stop loving the ones I actually loved. I don't miss them. I wish them well and I wish we did not live in a society where you can't check in with an ex every now and again.

My roommate in college had the best boyfriend but they decided they were fun together not "good" together so they broke up and they remained friends and his wife is amazing, we love her. I kinda wish life was more like that.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 that I miss and dream about them quite often. No idea what that means bc I have seen either in a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am newly divorced (18 months since we separated in word, 7 since he moved out). We were together 15 years. I do not miss him per se but I do miss having a person, and also the idea of being an intact family unit. I sometimes feel like a misfit in a world made for couples / families now. Kid events are really difficult. I don’t miss being his romantic partner in the least though. So I guess my answer is kind of?

Great answer. This is why I stay married, why I endure it. You're braver than me.

Are you happy?