Do you miss your ex even if you’re over them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do miss an exBF from 20 years ago but only because of sex. He could have written a book he was so good but I doubt he could write a sentence. My DH is very capable in bed and a wonderful husband and father but my ex was amazing.

Typical Western woman I see. Married to a wonderful, caring provider but yet still gets the tingles for ol’ Chad who alpha-widowed her 20 years ago.

Do your husband a favor and just leave him. You obviously have your mind elsewhere.

Haha, you are definitely not an alpha...loser. Get off this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do miss an exBF from 20 years ago but only because of sex. He could have written a book he was so good but I doubt he could write a sentence. My DH is very capable in bed and a wonderful husband and father but my ex was amazing.

Typical Western woman I see. Married to a wonderful, caring provider but yet still gets the tingles for ol’ Chad who alpha-widowed her 20 years ago.

Do your husband a favor and just leave him. You obviously have your mind elsewhere.

Because men never fantasize about previous partners......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do miss an exBF from 20 years ago but only because of sex. He could have written a book he was so good but I doubt he could write a sentence. My DH is very capable in bed and a wonderful husband and father but my ex was amazing.

Typical Western woman I see. Married to a wonderful, caring provider but yet still gets the tingles for ol’ Chad who alpha-widowed her 20 years ago.

Do your husband a favor and just leave him. You obviously have your mind elsewhere.

Because men never fantasize about previous partners......

Exactly!

[Anonymous]

Do I miss them? No but I hope they are doing well and once in a while have a good thought about me. They fall into the category of people who had a big impact on my life at the time but for whatever reason were not life partners. Know what I mean?

[Anonymous]

Kind of? Not all of them, just one really. I absolutely believe that we’re better suited to other partners. But we really had a special emotional connection, and treated the relationship and each other with respect.

While he’s not the best man for me, he is one of the best men I’ve ever known. And so sometimes, when we do have to interact, it takes me back a bit. Maybe it’s more of a thought that “what if the circumstances had aligned just a tiny bit differently?”

It may make life a tiny bit more complicated, but I don’t hate it. Compared to the things some people discover about their exes as their relationships end, its nice to know that I loved, and was loved by, a really good person.

[Anonymous]

Some I do, some I don’t. My first real BF, I keep in touch with, and also his current partner. They’re much better together than we were. But we’re still friends. No romantic undertones left. The next serious one, he turned out to be an alcoholic. I decided I couldn’t deal with that, but damn it took me years to get past him. It’s now long enough that I don’t miss him any more, but I bet if we were to see each other it would bring it all back up again. My ex DH cheated, and I still miss him every damn day. We get along well for the children. I think I’m just wired to fall hard and it takes a while to move on.

There are a couple though that I never really think about at all.

[Anonymous]

No, do not miss any of my exes.

[Anonymous]

I missed one for many years, even after I met DH. They are so different. Ex was a sensitive romantic musician and DH is a software engineer. DH loves me and I love him but after the honeymoon phase his aspergillosis-y behavior made me miss my ex a lot. But we’ve gone to couples therapy and now have 3 kids and now I rarely ever think of the ex.

[Anonymous]

i do. i wish i didn’t and i am completely over him and wouldn’t be with him if he came to me today begging. but i miss him and it sucks. not every day, but enough. it’s nonsensical to me. honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i do. i wish i didn’t and i am completely over him and wouldn’t be with him if he came to me today begging. but i miss him and it sucks. not every day, but enough. it’s nonsensical to me. honestly.

why not another chance? you don’t sound like you’re over him.

[Anonymous]

Three people come to mind. All were very giving and did some incredibly nice things when we were together. Will always be grateful but romantically it wasn't meant to be a long term commitment. I learned not to miss them.