New STA parent seeking advice, suggestions, or just plain "I wish I had known X" info

[Anonymous]

To the (I assume) mom of the boy who wasn't invited. What's it like to see the (I assume) mom who hosted the party knowing she knows your posting on this site about her? Do you see each other at drop off or pick up or the parents dinner the other night? Must be awkward.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused about the Halloween party. Was every boy in the grade invited except one? or every sat boy in that grade who lives in the certain neighborhood? Could the friend the boy was supposed to go trick or treating with just brought his friend along, or was it an invitation only type of thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the (I assume) mom of the boy who wasn't invited. What's it like to see the (I assume) mom who hosted the party knowing she knows your posting on this site about her? Do you see each other at drop off or pick up or the parents dinner the other night? Must be awkward.

Have no dog in the fight but you seem like a small hearted mean girl. The only one an encounter should be awkward for is the mom who allowed her son to exclude someone. Since you are probably that witch of a mom you tell us how do you feel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the (I assume) mom of the boy who wasn't invited. What's it like to see the (I assume) mom who hosted the party knowing she knows your posting on this site about her? Do you see each other at drop off or pick up or the parents dinner the other night? Must be awkward.

The poster already said it wasn't her son that was excluded. There are 400 boys at St. Alban's and they didn't indicate the grade or what year this happened so it could be a number of people. I assume the only way the parent would know it is her is if she has a guilty conscience and that's her issue to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Relational aggression is the worst and most frequent form of bullying in the DC private school world. It won't stop until families have the social courage to stand up to the perpetrators.

[Anonymous]

STA is such a kind and amazing place that I think when parents see things that are out of the ordinary or not the accepted norm, they get upset and speak out. The take away from this is that these things are not the norm at STA, which is why people notice and get upset. Based on the snarky reply above I understand why someone would not want to approach a parent in fear that it would make everything worse for their child.

[Anonymous]

Sta is a kind and amazing place for you...we have had a different experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sta is a kind and amazing place for you...we have had a different experience.

Very sorry to hear that. I was the person posting about the Halloween party so I just wanted to follow up and explain why I posted that and also explain why I think others may be mentioning other things - at least in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

I always wondered what sort of sophisticated people send their kids to this obviously expensive and prestigious school, as I drive by every day. It's just surprising to see that some of them act like teenage girls!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always wondered what sort of sophisticated people send their kids to this obviously expensive and prestigious school, as I drive by every day. It's just surprising to see that some of them act like teenage girls!

Sexist statement. Why single out girls?

[Anonymous]

Ok. Prey. Teenagers.

[Anonymous]

Sorry. Not prey **

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:STA is such a kind and amazing place that I think when parents see things that are out of the ordinary or not the accepted norm, they get upset and speak out. The take away from this is that these things are not the norm at STA, which is why people notice and get upset. Based on the snarky reply above I understand why someone would not want to approach a parent in fear that it would make everything worse for their child.

+1 Especially since no other parents have seemed willing to stand shoulder-to-shoulder with the parents of the excluded boy and declare to the party parents that 'their bullying behavior stops here'.

[Anonymous]

Why do posters think the other guest had any idea that one boy had not been invited? If I had been at the party I'd assume(if I had any reason to think about it at all) that the boy was out with other friends or was sick or not able to make it. Or that the kids weren't friends. Not appropriTe for the kid who was going to trick-or-treat with him to cancel (that's bad) but I'm not sure why any other parent would know a boy had been excluded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do posters think the other guest had any idea that one boy had not been invited? If I had been at the party I'd assume(if I had any reason to think about it at all) that the boy was out with other friends or was sick or not able to make it. Or that the kids weren't friends. Not appropriTe for the kid who was going to trick-or-treat with him to cancel (that's bad) but I'm not sure why any other parent would know a boy had been excluded.

Not before, afterwards! Go back to the original post about it. After the party everyone knew. And none of the parents stood up to the party parents about it. And that is why families like ours are quite concerned. It definitely is forcing us to reconsider our options for next year. Very sad showing all around.