Sister packed my stuff without asking me

[Anonymous]

I used to share an apt with my sister for 2 years. I got married and moved out but due to space issues had some of my stuff at the old place. She finally moved places recently and texted me 4 days before moving saying she packed my stuff into boxes and labeled them and I should come by and get them.

I’m very annoyed as I think it was rude and disrespectful of her to go through my stuff and pack them without asking me. I wish she’d given me a heads up so I could’ve come by to sort through and pack up.

When I told her she said “you’re just picking a fight with me. You knew I was moving but chose not to come by to pack up.”

She had mentioned moving a few months ago but it wasn’t a set plan. I thought she’d let me know a month or two before she left.

Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

How long did you store your stuff at her place after you moved out? Did you ask her if you could do that, or did you just leave it and assume? How many times did your sister tell you she was moving?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Be glad she cleaned up your stuff and stop being. You really have nothing more important to worry about?

How's this: go to get the stuff, and go out for a coffee or walk with your sis. There will come a point both you wont be alive anymore. Dont squander family on silly stuff. Tell her you're sorry and be done with it.

[Anonymous]

Your sister did you a favor in the midst of her own move, and you are mad???

[Anonymous]

Yes, you're wrong. You should thank her for not throwing out your crap.

[Anonymous]

nitwit

[Anonymous]

You're picking a fight with her.

let it go.

[Anonymous]

Should she have sent you a text saying "hey - I'm moving in 2 weeks, come get your junk". Sure.
Should you have had a plan to get your stuff out of your sister's place in a more reasonable timeframe? Sure.
Should you be annoyed? Honestly she has done you two favors: 1. Letting you leave your stuff behind and 2. Putting it in boxes for you. Stop picking fights and move on.

[Anonymous]

Unless you were still paying part of the rent at your sisters apartment, you’re the jerk here. She should’ve dropped your things off at Goodwill.

[Anonymous]

Your right to be annoyed ended the very first day you stopped paying rent/any portion of rent and vacated the premises.

Unless you were paying her to store it, as you would have had to pay a storage unit?

You suck. You're wrong. The end.

[Anonymous]

Yep, you're wrong. Move on.

[Anonymous]

It might have been nice for her to have tried to schedule a time for you to come pack your stuff or given you a deadline. It also might have been nice for you to have been proactive and moved your stuff out of her apt within a few months after you got married. Neither of those things happened so just make plans to get lunch with her soon and let it go. Life is too short and family is too important.

[Anonymous]

You sound like an immature nightmare.

[Anonymous]

OP wrote:I used to share an apt with my sister for 2 years. I got married and moved out but due to space issues had some of my stuff at the old place. She finally moved places recently and texted me 4 days before moving saying she packed my stuff into boxes and labeled them and I should come by and get them.

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She had mentioned moving a few months ago but it wasn’t a set plan. I thought she’d let me know a month or two before she left.

Yes, you are wrong, very wrong. When you moved out you should have gone and packed your stuff into boxes so that she could use the space/your old room. If you were going to be storing things in her apartment that you moved out of, then the only considerate thing to do would be to make sure that they were packed up and not in her way. Then if she had mentioned that she was moving, you only had to stop and pick them up.

But, even when you didn't do that, when she mentioned "a few months ago" that she would be moving, that was your next clue that you were remiss in not packing up your stuff and should have been a nudge to schedule a time as soon as possible to go and pack your stuff up.

You horribly abused your sister's generous tolerance having missed many opportunities to "come by to sort through and pack up". You've had how long since you moved out to do that, but you never prioritized it. So, she was force do do it for you. You not only were wrong, but you owe her an apology for reacting so poorly, and then thanks for doing the work for you. If I were in your shoes, I would be embarrassed to have been so remiss in my responsibility that I would make sure to get an extra nice housewarming gift for her new place along with a note that especially thanked her for being so indulgent with you leaving your things at her place and doing the work to pack your things up.

[Anonymous]

I hope this is a troll. I feel sorry for your sister, op.