Sister packed my stuff without asking me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your right to be annoyed ended the very first day you stopped paying rent/any portion of rent and vacated the premises.

Unless you were paying her to store it, as you would have had to pay a storage unit?

You suck. You're wrong. The end.

Yep, you suck. She could even make a legal case that that stuff became hers when you moved out and didn't pay her any type of rent or storage fee.

[Anonymous]

You were using your sister for free storage! You have zero right to be upset. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

You're wrong. Apologize and move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were using your sister for free storage! You have zero right to be upset. Ugh.

This.

[Anonymous]

Yep. You were in the wrong the day you moved out without packing up your stuff (let alone moving it out). She was within her rights to pack up your stuff then to get it out of her way. It's been there for months, at least, and you've never made a move to pack it up, even after she mentioned that she was considering moving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you're wrong. You should thank her for not throwing out your crap.

This. She's not your personal storage unit. You should have taken all your crap when you moved out.

[Anonymous]

Wait - you left your excess crap at your sister's place (presumably without paying her), knew she was planning on moving but didn't pack up, she packed for you and you gave her attitude for it, and you think *she* is the rude one?

FFS.

[Anonymous]

You should thank her for packing your stuff, ask her whether she threw out any of your possessions (that would be a big no-no) and ask her that if there is a next time, you want to be warned about when to come in to pack.

You are both at fault here, for not communicating correctly about a date and time to come pack and pick-up your stuff.

[Anonymous]

Would you have rather that she called you 4 days before moving saying to come and get your stuff out by Saturday and if you weren't available that she just abandoned it for the management company to come in an trash it? You imposed on her for free storage and want to put constraints on how she deals with your stuff when you didn't?

[Anonymous]

take your stuff, say "thank you" and get out of her hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should thank her for packing your stuff, ask her whether she threw out any of your possessions (that would be a big no-no) and ask her that if there is a next time, you want to be warned about when to come in to pack.

You are both at fault here, for not communicating correctly about a date and time to come pack and pick-up your stuff.

Say that, and I guarantee there will not be a "next time." I would thank her for keeping your stuff for so long, apologize for not packing it up yourself, and never say another word about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP wrote:I used to share an apt with my sister for 2 years. I got married and moved out but due to space issues had some of my stuff at the old place. She finally moved places recently and texted me 4 days before moving saying she packed my stuff into boxes and labeled them and I should come by and get them.

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She had mentioned moving a few months ago but it wasn’t a set plan. I thought she’d let me know a month or two before she left.

Yes, you are wrong, very wrong. When you moved out you should have gone and packed your stuff into boxes so that she could use the space/your old room. If you were going to be storing things in her apartment that you moved out of, then the only considerate thing to do would be to make sure that they were packed up and not in her way. Then if she had mentioned that she was moving, you only had to stop and pick them up.

But, even when you didn't do that, when she mentioned "a few months ago" that she would be moving, that was your next clue that you were remiss in not packing up your stuff and should have been a nudge to schedule a time as soon as possible to go and pack your stuff up.

You horribly abused your sister's generous tolerance having missed many opportunities to "come by to sort through and pack up". You've had how long since you moved out to do that, but you never prioritized it. So, she was force do do it for you. You not only were wrong, but you owe her an apology for reacting so poorly, and then thanks for doing the work for you. If I were in your shoes, I would be embarrassed to have been so remiss in my responsibility that I would make sure to get an extra nice housewarming gift for her new place along with a note that especially thanked her for being so indulgent with you leaving your things at her place and doing the work to pack your things up.

Exactly.

And OP, if you answered it, I missed it: How long did you leave your unpacked items at your sister's place? Months, or was it years?

[Anonymous]

Yes, you're wrong. Really really wrong. Here's my advice for how to handle it:

"Thanks for hanging onto my stuff for me, and for packing it up. I'm sorry I left it with you so long and didn't take care of it myself!!

Can't wait to see your new place!"

Then arrive at her new house w/ a lovely housewarming gift and be thankful you have such a gracious sister.

[Anonymous]

You're wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep. You were in the wrong the day you moved out without packing up your stuff (let alone moving it out). She was within her rights to pack up your stuff then to get it out of her way. It's been there for months, at least, and you've never made a move to pack it up, even after she mentioned that she was considering moving.

Absolutely! Even if you had no place to store it and she agreed to keep it, the fact that you didn’t even bother to pack it up so she could have use of her own space speaks volumes about your sense of entitlement. Consider this a life lesson in consideration.