How do you deal with kids fat shaming others

[Anonymous]

There’s a boy in my 14 yr dds class who calls her fat. Dd is a tall girl who is probably 10 lbs overweight, normal puberty weight gain. She’s at the age where girls are self critical and harsh on themselves, as is. When this boy calls her fat, it ruins her day. What is the best way to handle this? Do I email the principal and counselor? I want this boy to nip it and not grow up to be a bully
How do you teach girls to handle such situations? I need ideas on what are some good comebacks she can use for situations like these?

[Anonymous]

It is bullying, and as the former fat girl I think you should go to the principal and counselor. It's not acceptable to fat shame even though it's widely accepted.

I wish I had great comebacks to suggest but I can tell you that it was very damaging to be teased so much about it when I was young, back before anyone really cared about bullying generally or fat shaming in particular.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you can have her go to tell the counselor. At 14 she can advocate for herself. MYbe she can tell him to stop. You could call his parents directly. Or she can say to him “talk to me when you’re perfect.” And walk away.

[Anonymous]

Teach her to say, “I can lose weight, but you’ll always be an asshole.”

[Anonymous]

My Mom always said ...take the garbage and throw it in the trash can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teach her to say, “I can lose weight, but you’ll always be an asshole.”

Good one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teach her to say, “I can lose weight, but you’ll always be an asshole.”

Then why don’t you?

Not a good comeback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teach her to say, “I can lose weight, but you’ll always be an asshole.”

I like it.

My DS was very short in MS, among the shortest in his grade and he was teased regularly about it. He and I came up with some comebacks and it did shut some of it down and DS felt better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teach her to say, “I can lose weight, but you’ll always be an asshole.”

No, I don't think the response should even bring up weight because this casts weight as a negative thing, like being an asshole.

[Anonymous]

"Interesting. But you're ugly. And an asshole. So I guess we're even."

[Anonymous]

Teach her to stand up for herself. I was only a little chunky and this kid on my street would call me hefty and throw worms in my hair. I didn’t run home to mommy and daddy and they didn’t have to call an arsenal of people because I didn’t give the kid a big reaction.

[Anonymous]

You file a formal bullying complaint and contact the counselor and Principal. This kind of behavior is not tolerated at our school.

[Anonymous]

"Interesting. But you're ugly. And an asshole. So I guess we're even."

Being fat is equivalent to being an ugly asshole? What a terrible comeback.

[Anonymous]

A well-timed F*ck you can be very useful.

[Anonymous]

Have her drop something heavy on his balls on accident.

I once did this to my bully and it was so satisfying. Plus, you don't get in trouble b/c it was an "accident."