Have you ever been attracted to or dated someone you're ashamed of?

[Anonymous]

Tell me I'm not alone here.

[Anonymous]

why are you ashamed of this person?

[Anonymous]

Yes.
But only when i was younger.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, my ex DH

[Anonymous]

Every man has dumpster dived and banged some beast that he didn't want to be seen with in public and never wanted his friends to see.

[Anonymous]

When I was 24 I dated a guy 15 years older who was unemployed, lived with his mom, had black/missing teeth, couldn't get it up, and was fat. We dated for about 2 years. Not sure what I was thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why are you ashamed of this person?

Let's just say he's a dumpster fire that you shouldn't date past 25. I don't want family or friends to know about him. I

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I dated a guy off and on for years. He was really nice and I so wanted to be attracted to him, but just could never get myself to be.

[Anonymous]

Definitely. A guy or two I was involved with when I wasn’t really looking for a serious relationship were guys I might not want to admit to having been involved with. They were right for the purpose they served at the time though.

[Anonymous]

Yup. When I was a young teacher I volunteered with an outreach program that taught prisoners how to read. About 2 years in I connected with someone. Wrestled with myself and hated myself for it. His crimes fell under the 3 strike rule of CA so he wasn't a murderer or anything but obviously not a stand up citizen. He also couldn't read obviously! Lol I quit the program and moved on. He got out under reform and found me and we keep in touch but I won't visit. I know how strongly I felt about him and I don't need to re in act that!

[Anonymous]

My wife is ashamed of me.

She is hiding the fact that I'm divorced and have kids from her extended family. Filters through her social media regularly to erase any indication that might get linked into her public stuff concerning my ex or kids. She is frequently talks about ex boyfriends and how much money they make and occasionally men she knows in passing that she "wishes she knew better."

Right now I'm a little upset because she spent dinner talking about this attractive doctor that has blue eyes she met at her recent doctor visit. She has been looking him up on social media....

I make 150K. I'm not a doctor and I don't have blue eyes.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Well, it was right there for the taking. Who would blame me?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it happened twice. Not sure what I was thinking either. They were bad boys and looked like it - neck tattoos and the whole nine yards. I liked them, but any time we were in public I got a little embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

Yes. He was very insistent and cool in some ways but I was embarrassed to be out with him. Once someone even loudly/publicly commented on the feature that caused me to feel embarrassed and that was it, I broke up with him. 15 years later I still feel badly about how I behaved. What an ass. I think women do this in the vein of being too nice. I don’t imagine men doing it very often, if at all. Except maybe upper class dating lower social status? But that is usually due to beauty.