Have you ever been attracted to or dated someone you're ashamed of?

[Anonymous]

My college BF was definitely a mistake, but I'm not particularly ashamed of him, per se. He was just a jerk.

The one I'm ashamed of was a guy I dated in grad school for about 4 months. He was really manipulative and had a lot of issues he was trying to work through. I made the mistake of thinking I could help him do that and ended up just getting hurt. The part I'm ashamed about is that I dated him solely because he has a passing resemblance to some combination of Paul McCartney & George Harrison.

[Anonymous]

I would think there are times when spouses think this of each other. I have. And, I'm sure my DH has thought the same of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep - tried twice to date guys who were a little rough around the edges/from a lower class background than Mel. We were fine, mostly, by ourselves, and they were both super nice to me, but I just couldn’t get over their uncouth ways.

Married an elite east coast snob, who is a great guy, but have since found out that his crew has a lot of uncouth things about them, too, not in terms of clothing or manners, but more in privately held beliefs.

LOL surprise surprise!

people don't get more civilized as you move up the status ladder they just get better at hiding stuff

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup. When I was a young teacher I volunteered with an outreach program that taught prisoners how to read. About 2 years in I connected with someone. Wrestled with myself and hated myself for it. His crimes fell under the 3 strike rule of CA so he wasn't a murderer or anything but obviously not a stand up citizen. He also couldn't read obviously! Lol I quit the program and moved on. He got out under reform and found me and we keep in touch but I won't visit. I know how strongly I felt about him and I don't need to re in act that!

Was he the hot bad boy type?

[Anonymous]

Yes--I dated a guy in HS who was a druggie (I was a good girl, honor student). I used to only go to his house because I didn't want my friends and family to know I was seeing him. He was just so nice and sweet (probably because he was high) and most high schools guys were jerks.

I dated a guy in grad school that was awesome in every way, but he had some social skills deficits and would say things off the top of his head that were just so bizarre and embarrassing in front of my more socially savvy friends. He was, by far, the most intelligent and interesting person I've ever dated--while I know he wasn't right for me, to this day I regret not giving him more of a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife is ashamed of me.

She is hiding the fact that I'm divorced and have kids from her extended family. Filters through her social media regularly to erase any indication that might get linked into her public stuff concerning my ex or kids. She is frequently talks about ex boyfriends and how much money they make and occasionally men she knows in passing that she "wishes she knew better."

Right now I'm a little upset because she spent dinner talking about this attractive doctor that has blue eyes she met at her recent doctor visit. She has been looking him up on social media....

I make 150K. I'm not a doctor and I don't have blue eyes.

You should definitely divorce your wife if she is treating you like this.

How deplorable!
You deserve much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife is ashamed of me.

She is hiding the fact that I'm divorced and have kids from her extended family. Filters through her social media regularly to erase any indication that might get linked into her public stuff concerning my ex or kids. She is frequently talks about ex boyfriends and how much money they make and occasionally men she knows in passing that she "wishes she knew better."

Right now I'm a little upset because she spent dinner talking about this attractive doctor that has blue eyes she met at her recent doctor visit. She has been looking him up on social media....

I make 150K. I'm not a doctor and I don't have blue eyes.

Why are you married to her?

I seriously hope this poster considers what this woman does to his mental state. And guess what, if she is not crazy about the $150K, there are plenty of women who will be.

They would be at first but then they would become acclimate, look around, and start wanting to trade up...

[Anonymous]

Yes, he turned out to be very racist and also the type of person who loved to share his politics with everyone (even at inappropriate times) and talk about how dumb everyone who disagreed with him was.

(This was before things like MAGA, though I would not be surprised if he became a huge MAGA/Trump supporter. I don't follow him in any way whatsoever nor do I care to.)

[Anonymous]

For six months I dated a 90 pound 5 foot woman from another race. We had nothing in common except we both enjoyed wicked sex. The sex was almost worth it but even crazy sex twice a day gets old when there is nothing else stimulating about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For six months I dated a 90 pound 5 foot woman from another race. We had nothing in common except we both enjoyed wicked sex. The sex was almost worth it but even crazy sex twice a day gets old when there is nothing else stimulating about her.

What you ashamed of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every man has dumpster dived and banged some beast that he didn't want to be seen with in public and never wanted his friends to see.

Wait what