Husband calls me selfish

[Anonymous]

Because I eat my meals before feeding our almost 3 year old. He's sitting at the table doing the exact same thing but somehow I am selfish. If our child were truly hungry he would sit at the table, right? This culture of following your toddler around feeding them is really not necessary, yes? I am so furious at my husband for saying this.

[Anonymous]

"Andrew, I'd like you to take over feeding Aidan, since you know best how he should be fed. It's obvious that you would do a much better job."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Andrew, I'd like you to take over feeding Aidan, since you know best how he should be fed. It's obvious that you would do a much better job."

Ha, THIS.

[Anonymous]

Your kid doesn't eat at the table? I think it's perfectly normal to serve dinner for everyone, sit the 3 year old at the table and if he's not hungry he can go. We have a rule that our dd (also 3) needs to sit for about 10 min with us as we eat and if she's really not hungry she can go. There's at least one thing on her plate she will always eat and she's allowed a small toy to keep her attention st the table so she actually eats eventually.
I don't think it's great you're not following your 3 year old with food. That sets a bad precedent. Your husband is odd and his commentary is not productive. He could offer your da to sit in his lap as an incentive to hang out with parents during dinner time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid doesn't eat at the table? I think it's perfectly normal to serve dinner for everyone, sit the 3 year old at the table and if he's not hungry he can go. We have a rule that our dd (also 3) needs to sit for about 10 min with us as we eat and if she's really not hungry she can go. There's at least one thing on her plate she will always eat and she's allowed a small toy to keep her attention st the table so she actually eats eventually.
I don't think it's great you're not following your 3 year old with food. That sets a bad precedent. Your husband is odd and his commentary is not productive. He could offer your da to sit in his lap as an incentive to hang out with parents during dinner time.

You think she should be following her 3 year old around with food?

[Anonymous]

Why don't your kids eat dinner with you?

[Anonymous]

Does no one use a high chair anymore?

[Anonymous]

Geez - why don’t all of you sit down together to eat your meals?? Duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Andrew, I'd like you to take over feeding Aidan, since you know best how he should be fed. It's obvious that you would do a much better job."

???

My DH is similar, and this is the response I use.

And no, it’s not necessary to follow your kid around to feed them unless directed by a doctor or other health professional. I don’t really understand this culture of constantly following kids around and forcing food on them, but I suppose that’s a complaint for the General Parenting forum.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does no one use a high chair anymore?

Not for 3 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Andrew, I'd like you to take over feeding Aidan, since you know best how he should be fed. It's obvious that you would do a much better job."

???

My DH is similar, and this is the response I use.

And no, it’s not necessary to follow your kid around to feed them unless directed by a doctor or other health professional. I don’t really understand this culture of constantly following kids around and forcing food on them, but I suppose that’s a complaint for the General Parenting forum.....

PP here, sorry for the question marks, I think I accidentally hit an emoji. Wasn’t trying to question anything!

[Anonymous]

Yep. Give the job back to him. My DH recently told me he didn't like the way I handled something, but when I pointed out the amount of time he'd had to do it his way -- and hadn't -- he said, yup, fair point, and that was it.

The hardest thing to do in parenting is respecting that you have one way of interacting with the kids, and he has another way, and even if they aren't the same, they are both valid.

You should be on board about what is important (discipline, limits, etc.) but you can be flexible about how to implement.

Honestly, I'm not ever going to do what my husband wants me to do. It doesn't work for me. But if he wants to do it his way, I'm not going to stop him. If only he'd stop trying to change me.

[Anonymous]

Put the meal on the table. everyone sits down, including 3 year old, and eats. Have a rule that 3 year old must stay X number of minutes at the table. If 3 year old does not eat, the food is put away until the next meal or snack time. 3 year old also gets warned that dinner will be over and the food will go away. Then, do it. Use a timer if necessary.

[Anonymous]

Is the kid screaming? No? Then there's no problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the kid screaming? No? Then there's no problem.

YOur kids only get attention when they are screaming?