Should I invite SIL to baby shower?

[Anonymous]

SIL and I are not close but have due dates close to each other. SIL came to my first baby shower and brought a nice gift, but according to my brother she doesn’t like baby showers in general and doesn’t want one of her own. I’m being thrown a small baby shower for my second and am sending out invites soon, I texted my brother to ask if they would be in town that week and he said they would be, but he wasn’t sure of SIL’s work schedule. I have only seen SIL once in the past year for the holidays and that was it, we otherwise don’t talk.

I just don’t know if second baby showers warrant all female family members being invited too, if it it ok to throw a smaller baby shower for guests who I know will want to be there and be able to come. I don’t want to seem rude by not inviting her but it doesn’t seem like she’s a person who even likes baby showers to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Yes just invite her. She can decide if she wants to come. Don’t overthink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes just invite her. She can decide if she wants to come. Don’t overthink.

+1

[Anonymous]

Yes, but its ok not to since you are never going to treat her like family. And, yes you still get her a gift/no shower.

[Anonymous]

Of course you should invite her. If she doesn't want to come, she can decline, and you will not be offended. You could even text her "No pressure to come to the baby shower - I know you don't like them, but you're absolutely welcome because I'm always happy to see you. Whatever works best for you!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course you should invite her. If she doesn't want to come, she can decline, and you will not be offended. You could even text her "No pressure to come to the baby shower - I know you don't like them, but you're absolutely welcome because I'm always happy to see you. Whatever works best for you!"

Yes, this. I would invite her and tell her you know she is not a fan and she absolutely does not have to come but you wanted to include her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you should invite her. If she doesn't want to come, she can decline, and you will not be offended. You could even text her "No pressure to come to the baby shower - I know you don't like them, but you're absolutely welcome because I'm always happy to see you. Whatever works best for you!"

Yes, this. I would invite her and tell her you know she is not a fan and she absolutely does not have to come but you wanted to include her.

+1 to both of these.

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure you should say “I know you don’tile baby showers” unless it’s soemthing she said to you directly. If her husband is just relaying the information, it’s best not to mention it.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Yes, you need to invite

[Anonymous]

Yes. She’d get you a gift anyways because siblings give gifts for every baby.

You shouldn’t have a 2nd shower thougb

[Anonymous]

My sister in law came late & brought her own food to mine. She's a peach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course you should invite her. If she doesn't want to come, she can decline, and you will not be offended. You could even text her "No pressure to come to the baby shower - I know you don't like them, but you're absolutely welcome because I'm always happy to see you. Whatever works best for you!"

No, don't say that as I'd assume you don't want me.

[Anonymous]

Invite her and let her decline.

[Anonymous]

You’re having a 2nd baby shower. Who cares about etiquette?