Should I invite SIL to baby shower?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re having a 2nd baby shower. Who cares about etiquette?

lol - was just going to say this.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but get her an aweosme gift for her baby as second showers are pretty tacky, an invite requires a gift, and you know she doesn’t like them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re having a 2nd baby shower. Who cares about etiquette?

not only that she is throwing it for herself. op do whatever you want. you are past any social conventions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. She’d get you a gift anyways because siblings give gifts for every baby.

You shouldn’t have a 2nd shower thougb

Why? Every baby should be celebrated.

[Anonymous]

Why are you having a second shower AND sending out your own invites? Tacky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you having a second shower AND sending out your own invites? Tacky

Plenty of women have second baby showers, it was offered to be thrown for me and I am helping with the invites. What's wrong with that?

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with a second shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with a second shower.

Its a greedy tacky gift grab. Just like a wedding registry and bridal shower for marriage #3.

[Anonymous]

A 2nd baby shower is over the top ( for me). Only the Kardashians have multiple baby showers.

To the OP, yes, invite her, but don't be offended if she doesn't attend.

[Anonymous]

Invite and send her and let your brother know that you are in no way offended if she does not come. Love to have her, but you understand that not everyone is that into a second shower

Op, I suggest you at least call it a sprinkle. That at least implies smaller gifts. At least in my mind.

[Anonymous]

My SIL came to my 2nd baby shower (which I didn't want, but my BFF wouldn't take no for an answer). I really actually didn't want to have a shower, so I didn't give my BFF a list of people to invite. She then asked a set of her friends and my female local family members. I still remember all this bz my SIL & the hostess's friends spent time at my shower discussing whether or not I actually had any friends (since they weren't there). Good times!

re: your shower, I'd definitely invite SIL but not mention whether she likes showers or not (a no pressure line would be good tho)

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Anonymous wrote:Of course you should invite her. If she doesn't want to come, she can decline, and you will not be offended. You could even text her "No pressure to come to the baby shower - I know you don't like them, but you're absolutely welcome because I'm always happy to see you. Whatever works best for you!"

Yes, this. I would invite her and tell her you know she is not a fan and she absolutely does not have to come but you wanted to include her.

+1 to both of these.

+2

[Anonymous]

Invite. It is her choice whether to come or not. You are overthinking this !!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SIL and I are not close but have due dates close to each other. SIL came to my first baby shower and brought a nice gift, but according to my brother she doesn’t like baby showers in general and doesn’t want one of her own. I’m being thrown a small baby shower for my second and am sending out invites soon, I texted my brother to ask if they would be in town that week and he said they would be, but he wasn’t sure of SIL’s work schedule. I have only seen SIL once in the past year for the holidays and that was it, we otherwise don’t talk.

I just don’t know if second baby showers warrant all female family members being invited too, if it it ok to throw a smaller baby shower for guests who I know will want to be there and be able to come. I don’t want to seem rude by not inviting her but it doesn’t seem like she’s a person who even likes baby showers to begin with.

Second baby showers are nothing but gift grabs for gift whores. They are tacky and should not be given.

[Anonymous]

Send her an invite. It is up to her to decide to accept/decline. The ball is on her court. Be cordial and don't continue to presume and guess her intentions/feelings, etc.
It is always nice to be invited no matter what.