Should I invite SIL to baby shower?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, ignore these people. Seriously.

Um don't ignore them.

In my circle we have sprinkles for 2nd or 3rd babies. We basically all pitch in $5-10 and give the pregnant friend a gift card, and maybe some new onesies. Then we get together for brunch at someone's house to celebrate. We love celebrating new babies, but none of us have wanted the whole Big Gifts From Everyone for a 2nd baby. Mainly because we don't need anything but diapers and some new burp clothes, if that. And the only people who come are the 10 of us in this friend group. We don't invite sisters and moms and cousins and work friends etc.

SO you can celebrate without having a shower. Have a baby brunch, have a small sprinkle, but not another shower.

So you and your 10 friends should definitely be able to dictate norms.

Have a 2nd shower as a celebration and have the organizer put out the word for no gifts.