What non political controversial position do you hold?

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Anonymous wrote:Quite a few

1. Never wake a sleeping baby to feed.

2. After 6 weeks or so, babies need to be sleep trained. Tending to a baby’s every peep during the night is only something a mom to few children and responsibilities can manage. It’s truly not necessary to stay up all night with your three month old baby. In fact, it’s not good for the baby.

3. A lot of babies don’t sleep well now because of “back to sleep,” which probably isn’t even necessary if you’re not poor, don’t smoke and don’t leave pillows in the crib. If there truly was a strong relationship between back sleeping and SIDS, then people would have figured this out before 1995.

4. A lot of men don’t contribute enough at home because men are lazy and will let women do all of the work. If you SAHM and don’t leave the house for extended periods of time, it’s not surprising you’re the default parent. You did this to yourself.

5. The food in NYC is not that great. NYC is overrated in general.

6. Parental leave is better in European countries because women have fewer options to stay home due to the higher COL and cultural norms like not sharing finances with a partner. Also, it’s cheaper for these governments to hand out a measly $200-300 a week and encourage women to stay home than pay for childcare with high labor costs. I’d be insulted to be expected to stay home for a year with each kid (BORING) for an annual salary of around $20k. I prefer my 12 weeks of unpaid leave and higher salary in the US.

7. Daycare is bad for babies. Babies need a primary caregiver and not to share one with 3-5 other babies.

8. Kids don’t need snacks. Ever. Truly unnecessary.

9. Having kids isn’t fun and it’s not supposed to be. It’s a form of work.

10. The more money a city spends on the homeless, the more homeless the city will have.

PP, you're my DCUM best friend. +1000000 on #8. I was gobsmacked when I saw parents bring junk food snacks to feed their small kids on the Metro after leaving the house and just having had breakfast.

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Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of people, including on this board, claim that their children are SN, because they don't want to admit that their kid has only average intelligence. Average/below average is not a SN.

We have this problem at my school all the time. Parents think because their kid is slow at reading or math that they have a SN. That’s not how it works. Some kids are just slow at reading or math. That’s all. And that doesn’t qualify you for special services. Sorry.

A new DCUM low - putting down children with difficulty reading and writing for requesting help. OMFG. Go to hell

NP
There is literally nothing in that post that puts down children with difficulties in reading or math. Absolutely nothing derogatory was said.

You don’t think it derogatory to say dyslexic children are just slow not SN?!

That’s not what was said AT ALL.

You said many don’t want to say their kids are average intelligence so they say they are SN.

But a huge amount of studied show high/average IQ and dyslexia are treated in school as stupid. Same with ADHD.

So your saying it’s not derogatory to say these kids are “just slow”?

That poster wasn’t me. But it sounds like she was saying not every slow reader deserves a diagnosis. Sometimes a slow reader is just…a slow reader. Same with math.
My daughter (15) is awful at math. So we got her a tutor. I’m pretty sure if we went looking for a diagnosis we would find one. But she doesn’t need a label - she just needs help in math. Because she’s really not good at it.

+1. There’s a difference in kids who have special needs and kids who just aren’t good at math. Both kids may be great at other things. Upper middle class parents just need to label their “not good at math” kid. Maybe they just don’t take to math!

Most kids bad at math should just be labeled as “kids with teachers who cant teachers math”. Hence the need for a tutor.

+1, this doesn't improve at the college level

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Quite a few

1. Never wake a sleeping baby to feed.

2. After 6 weeks or so, babies need to be sleep trained. Tending to a baby’s every peep during the night is only something a mom to few children and responsibilities can manage. It’s truly not necessary to stay up all night with your three month old baby. In fact, it’s not good for the baby.

3. A lot of babies don’t sleep well now because of “back to sleep,” which probably isn’t even necessary if you’re not poor, don’t smoke and don’t leave pillows in the crib. If there truly was a strong relationship between back sleeping and SIDS, then people would have figured this out before 1995.

4. A lot of men don’t contribute enough at home because men are lazy and will let women do all of the work. If you SAHM and don’t leave the house for extended periods of time, it’s not surprising you’re the default parent. You did this to yourself.

5. The food in NYC is not that great. NYC is overrated in general.

6. Parental leave is better in European countries because women have fewer options to stay home due to the higher COL and cultural norms like not sharing finances with a partner. Also, it’s cheaper for these governments to hand out a measly $200-300 a week and encourage women to stay home than pay for childcare with high labor costs. I’d be insulted to be expected to stay home for a year with each kid (BORING) for an annual salary of around $20k. I prefer my 12 weeks of unpaid leave and higher salary in the US.

7. Daycare is bad for babies. Babies need a primary caregiver and not to share one with 3-5 other babies.

8. Kids don’t need snacks. Ever. Truly unnecessary.

9. Having kids isn’t fun and it’s not supposed to be. It’s a form of work.

10. The more money a city spends on the homeless, the more homeless the city will have.

PP, you're my DCUM best friend. +1000000 on #8. I was gobsmacked when I saw parents bring junk food snacks to feed their small kids on the Metro after leaving the house and just having had breakfast.

Wow. You guys are odd. No junk food snacks, sure. But are you two actually opposed giving a hungry child some grapes and crackers at 3PM? I guess it's unnecessary in the sense that they won't starve without them but wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can love cats and dogs equally ….

hahahah truly controversial! (no sarcasm)

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Anonymous wrote:A woman is a human person with a XX chromosome pair.

A man is a human person with a XY chromosome pair.

Apparently, this is a controversial position.

You are confusing sex with gender. Your sex is assigned at birth and is what is located between your legs. Gender is a social construct. It is in your brain. Many cultures throughout history have had 3,4, and even 5 different genders.

Then we need to base bathrooms, sports, etc on sex and not gender. Clears up a lot of confusion.

So you want this guy in the girl's bathroom?

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Anonymous wrote:I wish there were a cure for autism.

Uh, how is that controversial? People with autism struggle to get through life. Wouldn't it be nice if they didn't have to?

It’s very controversial these days actually. I have lots of friends who would shun me if they knew I held that opinion.

https://time.com/6092407/autism-making-life-easier/?amp=true

This makes no sense. It’s a wish, not a controversy. And who would shun someone for wanting a cure for autism? Don’t we all want that?

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Anonymous wrote:Quite a few

1. Never wake a sleeping baby to feed.

2. After 6 weeks or so, babies need to be sleep trained. Tending to a baby’s every peep during the night is only something a mom to few children and responsibilities can manage. It’s truly not necessary to stay up all night with your three month old baby. In fact, it’s not good for the baby.

3. A lot of babies don’t sleep well now because of “back to sleep,” which probably isn’t even necessary if you’re not poor, don’t smoke and don’t leave pillows in the crib. If there truly was a strong relationship between back sleeping and SIDS, then people would have figured this out before 1995.

4. A lot of men don’t contribute enough at home because men are lazy and will let women do all of the work. If you SAHM and don’t leave the house for extended periods of time, it’s not surprising you’re the default parent. You did this to yourself.

5. The food in NYC is not that great. NYC is overrated in general.

6. Parental leave is better in European countries because women have fewer options to stay home due to the higher COL and cultural norms like not sharing finances with a partner. Also, it’s cheaper for these governments to hand out a measly $200-300 a week and encourage women to stay home than pay for childcare with high labor costs. I’d be insulted to be expected to stay home for a year with each kid (BORING) for an annual salary of around $20k. I prefer my 12 weeks of unpaid leave and higher salary in the US.

7. Daycare is bad for babies. Babies need a primary caregiver and not to share one with 3-5 other babies.

8. Kids don’t need snacks. Ever. Truly unnecessary.

9. Having kids isn’t fun and it’s not supposed to be. It’s a form of work.

10. The more money a city spends on the homeless, the more homeless the city will have.

PP, you're my DCUM best friend. +1000000 on #8. I was gobsmacked when I saw parents bring junk food snacks to feed their small kids on the Metro after leaving the house and just having had breakfast.

Wow. You guys are odd. No junk food snacks, sure. But are you two actually opposed giving a hungry child some grapes and crackers at 3PM? I guess it's unnecessary in the sense that they won't starve without them but wow.

It’s unnecessary. The child should come to dinner hungry. They need to learn hunger cues and also don’t need to associate every event with eating. There’s no reason a child needs grapes and crackers at 3 PM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Quite a few

1. Never wake a sleeping baby to feed.

2. After 6 weeks or so, babies need to be sleep trained. Tending to a baby’s every peep during the night is only something a mom to few children and responsibilities can manage. It’s truly not necessary to stay up all night with your three month old baby. In fact, it’s not good for the baby.

3. A lot of babies don’t sleep well now because of “back to sleep,” which probably isn’t even necessary if you’re not poor, don’t smoke and don’t leave pillows in the crib. If there truly was a strong relationship between back sleeping and SIDS, then people would have figured this out before 1995.

4. A lot of men don’t contribute enough at home because men are lazy and will let women do all of the work. If you SAHM and don’t leave the house for extended periods of time, it’s not surprising you’re the default parent. You did this to yourself.

5. The food in NYC is not that great. NYC is overrated in general.

6. Parental leave is better in European countries because women have fewer options to stay home due to the higher COL and cultural norms like not sharing finances with a partner. Also, it’s cheaper for these governments to hand out a measly $200-300 a week and encourage women to stay home than pay for childcare with high labor costs. I’d be insulted to be expected to stay home for a year with each kid (BORING) for an annual salary of around $20k. I prefer my 12 weeks of unpaid leave and higher salary in the US.

7. Daycare is bad for babies. Babies need a primary caregiver and not to share one with 3-5 other babies.

8. Kids don’t need snacks. Ever. Truly unnecessary.

9. Having kids isn’t fun and it’s not supposed to be. It’s a form of work.

10. The more money a city spends on the homeless, the more homeless the city will have.

PP, you're my DCUM best friend. +1000000 on #8. I was gobsmacked when I saw parents bring junk food snacks to feed their small kids on the Metro after leaving the house and just having had breakfast.

Wow. You guys are odd. No junk food snacks, sure. But are you two actually opposed giving a hungry child some grapes and crackers at 3PM? I guess it's unnecessary in the sense that they won't starve without them but wow.

It’s unnecessary. The child should come to dinner hungry. They need to learn hunger cues and also don’t need to associate every event with eating. There’s no reason a child needs grapes and crackers at 3 PM.

You do realize that some kids eat lunch at school before noon, right? And that most families with working parents don't have dinner until after 6?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quite a few

1. Never wake a sleeping baby to feed.

2. After 6 weeks or so, babies need to be sleep trained. Tending to a baby’s every peep during the night is only something a mom to few children and responsibilities can manage. It’s truly not necessary to stay up all night with your three month old baby. In fact, it’s not good for the baby.

3. A lot of babies don’t sleep well now because of “back to sleep,” which probably isn’t even necessary if you’re not poor, don’t smoke and don’t leave pillows in the crib. If there truly was a strong relationship between back sleeping and SIDS, then people would have figured this out before 1995.

4. A lot of men don’t contribute enough at home because men are lazy and will let women do all of the work. If you SAHM and don’t leave the house for extended periods of time, it’s not surprising you’re the default parent. You did this to yourself.

5. The food in NYC is not that great. NYC is overrated in general.

6. Parental leave is better in European countries because women have fewer options to stay home due to the higher COL and cultural norms like not sharing finances with a partner. Also, it’s cheaper for these governments to hand out a measly $200-300 a week and encourage women to stay home than pay for childcare with high labor costs. I’d be insulted to be expected to stay home for a year with each kid (BORING) for an annual salary of around $20k. I prefer my 12 weeks of unpaid leave and higher salary in the US.

7. Daycare is bad for babies. Babies need a primary caregiver and not to share one with 3-5 other babies.

8. Kids don’t need snacks. Ever. Truly unnecessary.

9. Having kids isn’t fun and it’s not supposed to be. It’s a form of work.

10. The more money a city spends on the homeless, the more homeless the city will have.

PP, you're my DCUM best friend. +1000000 on #8. I was gobsmacked when I saw parents bring junk food snacks to feed their small kids on the Metro after leaving the house and just having had breakfast.

The second part of #3 is ridiculous. But, hey, definitely listen to rando in the internet! Btw, that is not an opinion. It is a fact contrary to data.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quite a few

1. Never wake a sleeping baby to feed.

2. After 6 weeks or so, babies need to be sleep trained. Tending to a baby’s every peep during the night is only something a mom to few children and responsibilities can manage. It’s truly not necessary to stay up all night with your three month old baby. In fact, it’s not good for the baby.

3. A lot of babies don’t sleep well now because of “back to sleep,” which probably isn’t even necessary if you’re not poor, don’t smoke and don’t leave pillows in the crib. If there truly was a strong relationship between back sleeping and SIDS, then people would have figured this out before 1995.

4. A lot of men don’t contribute enough at home because men are lazy and will let women do all of the work. If you SAHM and don’t leave the house for extended periods of time, it’s not surprising you’re the default parent. You did this to yourself.

5. The food in NYC is not that great. NYC is overrated in general.

6. Parental leave is better in European countries because women have fewer options to stay home due to the higher COL and cultural norms like not sharing finances with a partner. Also, it’s cheaper for these governments to hand out a measly $200-300 a week and encourage women to stay home than pay for childcare with high labor costs. I’d be insulted to be expected to stay home for a year with each kid (BORING) for an annual salary of around $20k. I prefer my 12 weeks of unpaid leave and higher salary in the US.

7. Daycare is bad for babies. Babies need a primary caregiver and not to share one with 3-5 other babies.

8. Kids don’t need snacks. Ever. Truly unnecessary.

9. Having kids isn’t fun and it’s not supposed to be. It’s a form of work.

10. The more money a city spends on the homeless, the more homeless the city will have.

PP, you're my DCUM best friend. +1000000 on #8. I was gobsmacked when I saw parents bring junk food snacks to feed their small kids on the Metro after leaving the house and just having had breakfast.

Wow. You guys are odd. No junk food snacks, sure. But are you two actually opposed giving a hungry child some grapes and crackers at 3PM? I guess it's unnecessary in the sense that they won't starve without them but wow.

It’s unnecessary. The child should come to dinner hungry. They need to learn hunger cues and also don’t need to associate every event with eating. There’s no reason a child needs grapes and crackers at 3 PM.

You do realize that some kids eat lunch at school before noon, right? And that most families with working parents don't have dinner until after 6?

OMG your child not putting food in his or her mouth for six hours. The horror!!!!

Seriously do you realize how ridiculous this has gotten by your comment??

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Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of people, including on this board, claim that their children are SN, because they don't want to admit that their kid has only average intelligence. Average/below average is not a SN.

We have this problem at my school all the time. Parents think because their kid is slow at reading or math that they have a SN. That’s not how it works. Some kids are just slow at reading or math. That’s all. And that doesn’t qualify you for special services. Sorry.

A new DCUM low - putting down children with difficulty reading and writing for requesting help. OMFG. Go to hell

NP
There is literally nothing in that post that puts down children with difficulties in reading or math. Absolutely nothing derogatory was said.

You don’t think it derogatory to say dyslexic children are just slow not SN?!

That’s not what was said AT ALL.

You said many don’t want to say their kids are average intelligence so they say they are SN.

But a huge amount of studied show high/average IQ and dyslexia are treated in school as stupid. Same with ADHD.

So your saying it’s not derogatory to say these kids are “just slow”?

That poster wasn’t me. But it sounds like she was saying not every slow reader deserves a diagnosis. Sometimes a slow reader is just…a slow reader. Same with math.
My daughter (15) is awful at math. So we got her a tutor. I’m pretty sure if we went looking for a diagnosis we would find one. But she doesn’t need a label - she just needs help in math. Because she’s really not good at it.

+1. There’s a difference in kids who have special needs and kids who just aren’t good at math. Both kids may be great at other things. Upper middle class parents just need to label their “not good at math” kid. Maybe they just don’t take to math!

Most kids bad at math should just be labeled as “kids with teachers who cant teachers math”. Hence the need for a tutor.

+1, this doesn't improve at the college level

Then we need to pay math teachers a lot more than other teachers. Right now they are paid on the same scale as the PE teachers and the history teacher, even though the opportunity cost is vastly different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quite a few

1. Never wake a sleeping baby to feed.

2. After 6 weeks or so, babies need to be sleep trained. Tending to a baby’s every peep during the night is only something a mom to few children and responsibilities can manage. It’s truly not necessary to stay up all night with your three month old baby. In fact, it’s not good for the baby.

3. A lot of babies don’t sleep well now because of “back to sleep,” which probably isn’t even necessary if you’re not poor, don’t smoke and don’t leave pillows in the crib. If there truly was a strong relationship between back sleeping and SIDS, then people would have figured this out before 1995.

4. A lot of men don’t contribute enough at home because men are lazy and will let women do all of the work. If you SAHM and don’t leave the house for extended periods of time, it’s not surprising you’re the default parent. You did this to yourself.

5. The food in NYC is not that great. NYC is overrated in general.

6. Parental leave is better in European countries because women have fewer options to stay home due to the higher COL and cultural norms like not sharing finances with a partner. Also, it’s cheaper for these governments to hand out a measly $200-300 a week and encourage women to stay home than pay for childcare with high labor costs. I’d be insulted to be expected to stay home for a year with each kid (BORING) for an annual salary of around $20k. I prefer my 12 weeks of unpaid leave and higher salary in the US.

7. Daycare is bad for babies. Babies need a primary caregiver and not to share one with 3-5 other babies.

8. Kids don’t need snacks. Ever. Truly unnecessary.

9. Having kids isn’t fun and it’s not supposed to be. It’s a form of work.

10. The more money a city spends on the homeless, the more homeless the city will have.

PP, you're my DCUM best friend. +1000000 on #8. I was gobsmacked when I saw parents bring junk food snacks to feed their small kids on the Metro after leaving the house and just having had breakfast.

The second part of #3 is ridiculous. But, hey, definitely listen to rando in the internet! Btw, that is not an opinion. It is a fact contrary to data.

Maybe? Millions of babies are sleeping on their backs and disrupting sleep for a very minor reduction in SIDS. The reduction could just as well be that so many fewer people now smoke cigarettes. They even found out recently that SIDS is due to a medical issue the baby is born with. Look I’ll put my baby on its back like every other parent does, but I’m not convinced we are doing much besides keeping our babies from sleeping. Babies slept on their stomachs all throughout history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quite a few

1. Never wake a sleeping baby to feed.

2. After 6 weeks or so, babies need to be sleep trained. Tending to a baby’s every peep during the night is only something a mom to few children and responsibilities can manage. It’s truly not necessary to stay up all night with your three month old baby. In fact, it’s not good for the baby.

3. A lot of babies don’t sleep well now because of “back to sleep,” which probably isn’t even necessary if you’re not poor, don’t smoke and don’t leave pillows in the crib. If there truly was a strong relationship between back sleeping and SIDS, then people would have figured this out before 1995.

4. A lot of men don’t contribute enough at home because men are lazy and will let women do all of the work. If you SAHM and don’t leave the house for extended periods of time, it’s not surprising you’re the default parent. You did this to yourself.

5. The food in NYC is not that great. NYC is overrated in general.

6. Parental leave is better in European countries because women have fewer options to stay home due to the higher COL and cultural norms like not sharing finances with a partner. Also, it’s cheaper for these governments to hand out a measly $200-300 a week and encourage women to stay home than pay for childcare with high labor costs. I’d be insulted to be expected to stay home for a year with each kid (BORING) for an annual salary of around $20k. I prefer my 12 weeks of unpaid leave and higher salary in the US.

7. Daycare is bad for babies. Babies need a primary caregiver and not to share one with 3-5 other babies.

8. Kids don’t need snacks. Ever. Truly unnecessary.

9. Having kids isn’t fun and it’s not supposed to be. It’s a form of work.

10. The more money a city spends on the homeless, the more homeless the city will have.

PP, you're my DCUM best friend. +1000000 on #8. I was gobsmacked when I saw parents bring junk food snacks to feed their small kids on the Metro after leaving the house and just having had breakfast.

The second part of #3 is ridiculous. But, hey, definitely listen to rando in the internet! Btw, that is not an opinion. It is a fact contrary to data.

Maybe? Millions of babies are sleeping on their backs and disrupting sleep for a very minor reduction in SIDS. The reduction could just as well be that so many fewer people now smoke cigarettes. They even found out recently that SIDS is due to a medical issue the baby is born with. Look I’ll put my baby on its back like every other parent does, but I’m not convinced we are doing much besides keeping our babies from sleeping. Babies slept on their stomachs all throughout history.

You should not conflate SIDS with suffocation. And, yes, babies did sleep on their stomachs throughout history. And a lot more babies died.

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Anonymous wrote:A woman is a human person with a XX chromosome pair.

A man is a human person with a XY chromosome pair.

Apparently, this is a controversial position.

You are confusing sex with gender. Your sex is assigned at birth and is what is located between your legs. Gender is a social construct. It is in your brain. Many cultures throughout history have had 3,4, and even 5 different genders.

Then we need to base bathrooms, sports, etc on sex and not gender. Clears up a lot of confusion.

So you want this guy in the girl's bathroom?

Plastic surgery doesn’t change your sex or your genetics.

[Anonymous]

Assisted suicide is ok