My teen is missing and don't want to come home

[Anonymous]

My DD 16 is missing, with police looking for her. She has been gone a month, with no contact. Out of the blue, she called me last night. She sounds fine and I can hear people in the background. She does not want to come home. At.All. She want's to live, work and get a place on her own. WTF? I pleaded with her to come home, but she says that is not her home. She hates the house. What the heck should I do? Stop pleading and say ok?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, I can't imagine your worry. Have you asked the police what you should do?

[Anonymous]

So I am sure you reported to police that she called? What did they say? I personally don’t believe your story.

[Anonymous]

Is there more to this story, OP?

[Anonymous]

Is there a man who lives in your house OP? My first thought is that she's been abused.

[Anonymous]

Did you post before? I think I remember this. If you are serious about her coming home to stay, you need to get to the bottom of why she hates the house. As a minor, she can’t live and work on her own without your permission. However, even if the police do find her, she will just run away again unless you get to the root of the issue.

I would offer to meet her in a neutral location-she can pick. Express how much you love and miss her, and that you want to work out a solution. Hopefully she’ll be open to hearing you and at least meeting again. You are at a disadvantage because she’s already gone, so I would be careful!

[Anonymous]

You seem tone deaf to why your daughter ran away and why she is staying away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there a man who lives in your house OP? My first thought is that she's been abused.

Agree. Your boyfriend, her step dad, uncle, grandfather?

[Anonymous]

Wow.

A person has asked for help and the majority of answers are NOT links to resources or suggestions on what to do, but attempts to blame either the poster or her family. Maybe they are to blame, but seriously, is now the time to be on your high horse?

Call this number, now.

1-800-786-2929 1-800-RUNAWAY

https://www.1800runaway.org

They can put you in touch with some resources to get you to the next steps. They can give you some suggestions on what to do next, including some of the legal issues your daughter needs to consider and for you as well.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you physically discipline your daughter? I know a mom that hit her teen son and he decided he wasn't taking it anymore and left to stay with his father. If you do, it needs to stop. Get help and learn how to relate to your dd in a healthy way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you physically discipline your daughter? I know a mom that hit her teen son and he decided he wasn't taking it anymore and left to stay with his father. If you do, it needs to stop. Get help and learn how to relate to your dd in a healthy way.

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

A person has asked for help and the majority of answers are NOT links to resources or suggestions on what to do, but attempts to blame either the poster or her family. Maybe they are to blame, but seriously, is now the time to be on your high horse?

Call this number, now.

1-800-786-2929 1-800-RUNAWAY

https://www.1800runaway.org

They can put you in touch with some resources to get you to the next steps. They can give you some suggestions on what to do next, including some of the legal issues your daughter needs to consider and for you as well.

Thank you for this information !!

[Anonymous]

I hate to say this OP but she fits the profile of someone being wed trafficked. A lot of teenage girls in this situation are normal middle class girls groomed by older “boyfriends” who talk the girls into doing something sexual and then use blackmail, force or withholding of love to get the girl to do subsequent and escalating acts.

[Anonymous]

OP, did your daughter give any indication of where she is? When you say "my teen" what age is she, specifically? I feel like the advice will be different if she's 14 than if she's 17.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, did your daughter give any indication of where she is? When you say "my teen" what age is she, specifically? I feel like the advice will be different if she's 14 than if she's 17.

Very First line says she’s 16.