Spouse too cheap to go on vacation?

[Anonymous]

Is your spouse too cheap to take a vacation? WTH do you call it? Control issues?

We have plenty of time off (especially because we don't go anywhere)......

If so, do you book it yourself and say "honey, guess where we are going?!"

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by too cheap to go on vacation?

You can do very low budget vacations like camping.

Or too cheap could mean he doesn't think you have the budget to support the kind of luxury vacation you want.

What is your HHI? DO you both contribute fairly equally financially? Are you in a good place financially?

Do you like the same types of vacations?

[Anonymous]

Some people just don’t like to travel. Is that it?

[Anonymous]

Maybe your spouse wants to save money for retirement or children’s college funds.

[Anonymous]

Yes you should pick a place, date and budget it out. Make a presentation and see if he’s in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by too cheap to go on vacation?

You can do very low budget vacations like camping.

Or too cheap could mean he doesn't think you have the budget to support the kind of luxury vacation you want.

What is your HHI? DO you both contribute fairly equally financially? Are you in a good place financially?

Do you like the same types of vacations?

I have and make more money than DH, why does that matter? Retirement and college are paid (thanks to me, since you asked).

I think that DH grew up with a family that was not close (and treated each other shabbily, unless they want something), so he does not know any better. That, and control issues learned from his parents. Everything is no.

Who said anything about expensive vacations? Are you deflecting?

I mean vacation - any vacation. At all, anywhere, one hour away for one night, I really don't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people just don’t like to travel. Is that it?

Dh gets overwhelmed very easily. Maybe that is it, thank you for your kind input.

[Anonymous]

Go away with your girlfriends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes you should pick a place, date and budget it out. Make a presentation and see if he’s in.

Not sure where to start, since it brings such a petulant stance from DH, it becomes overwhelming for me to think about it. Ideas on something that is enjoyable but not expensive? I know there are plenty of elaborate threads about people going to fancy places, but that is not us. Unless you know of great ways to travel cheap?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go away with your girlfriends

Prefer family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people just don’t like to travel. Is that it?

Dh gets overwhelmed very easily. Maybe that is it, thank you for your kind input.

OP here. To add, traveling was a traumatic experience, all around, for DH growing up.

[Anonymous]

Go away for a weekend by yourself. Invite him along of course, but when he says no, go alone. Keep the door open for him to join you if he changes his mind. Then maybe next time he’ll see you’re serious about going and be more willing to join you.

[Anonymous]

Stay-cation! Paperboat races in the bathtub! #FOMO #YOLO #HOMO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stay-cation! Paperboat races in the bathtub! #FOMO #YOLO #HOMO

#NOTHELPFUL

[Anonymous]

How about a local place. A nearby city to explore you can drive to. That’s what me and dw do