Girlfriend lied about encounter with male colleague

[Anonymous]

I was traveling and asked her how her night was. She said came home earlier than expected from work event. We share a phone line and a couple of days later I was checking my data and snooped into her messaging activity and see she sent a couple of texts late at night. Turned out to be a work colleague with whom she shared a cab home late. Confront her. She deleted messages that were sent after the time she said she came home in panic after confrontation. Now I think she’s cheating. She then asks him to send her texts that were exchanged that were cordial. She said nothing happened but she forgot the time and was having a good time and panicked when I asked how the night was because she never stays out late.
This happened a couple of months ago. No shady activity since. But I just have suspicion something happened. I’ve been cheated on before and she knows that.
I’m thinking of dumping her now. Hate lies and liars

[Anonymous]

She's just a girlfriend. Of course dump her. Do not even give it a second thought

[Anonymous]

You got some trust issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You got some trust issues

Sorry you are having a hard time keeping your boyfriends while you sleep around on them

[Anonymous]

First of all - are you controlling and paranoid based on your prior history - to the point that she feels she has to lie to avoid your constant questioniing, snooping and scrutiny — even when she hasn’t done anything wrong? If that’s the case then you need to break up and get your a$$ into therapy.

If that’s NOT the case, and you just had a strange hunch and were following up on it, then perhaps this relationship isn’t for you. You’re not married, and have no kids, so it’s very easy to part ways. It’s possibly she stayed out late and shared a cab, then said goodnight — but knew you were triggered and felt she had to lie. Either way, your relationship dynamic is u healthy.

Why do you share a phone line with a GF?? What does that even mean? That’s very bizarre.

[Anonymous]

^^ meant to say your relationship dynamic is *unhealthy*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all - are you controlling and paranoid based on your prior history - to the point that she feels she has to lie to avoid your constant questioniing, snooping and scrutiny — even when she hasn’t done anything wrong? If that’s the case then you need to break up and get your a$$ into therapy.

If that’s NOT the case, and you just had a strange hunch and were following up on it, then perhaps this relationship isn’t for you. You’re not married, and have no kids, so it’s very easy to part ways. It’s possibly she stayed out late and shared a cab, then said goodnight — but knew you were triggered and felt she had to lie. Either way, your relationship dynamic is u healthy.

Why do you share a phone line with a GF?? What does that even mean? That’s very bizarre.

Every bit of this.

[Anonymous]

People who do shit like share phone lines, email addresses and social media accounts deserve every dollop of the drama they inevitably encounter.

Grow up, get some therapy, and be an independent grown-ass adult. Whether or not you are in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I’m hung up on the part about sharing a phone line, too. How does that even work? Do you take turns with the same cell phone? Weird. Or do you mean you’re on the same account - two separate lines?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's just a girlfriend. Of course dump her. Do not even give it a second thought

+1

Look, if she is making up a lie and deleting texts from a fairly normal question of “how was the work event”, at best she takes the easy way out of a situation (either non-confrontational/people pleaser/doesn’t set boundaries) and will lie rather than communicate honestly. Having been a former people pleaser (at work and with relationships) I’ve had to learn to speak up for myself in all situations because what I was doing before wasn’t working. At worst, if she is fully capable of being up front but in this situation choose to lie, then she was doing so because she had something to hide.

[Anonymous]

No idea if she is cheating and in the wrong or your snooping is in the wrong, but you are just boyfriend and girlfriend and none of this seems worth the drama. End it. This is supposed to be the breezy part of the relationship

[Anonymous]

Cheating whore. Hard next.

[Anonymous]

I assume he means account and not line. An account can Have a ton of lines like my family account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was traveling and asked her how her night was. She said came home earlier than expected from work event. We share a phone line and a couple of days later I was checking my data and snooped into her messaging activity and see she sent a couple of texts late at night. Turned out to be a work colleague with whom she shared a cab home late. Confront her. She deleted messages that were sent after the time she said she came home in panic after confrontation. Now I think she’s cheating. She then asks him to send her texts that were exchanged that were cordial. She said nothing happened but she forgot the time and was having a good time and panicked when I asked how the night was because she never stays out late.
This happened a couple of months ago. No shady activity since. But I just have suspicion something happened. I’ve been cheated on before and she knows that.
I’m thinking of dumping her now. Hate lies and liars

Bounce, bro.

[Anonymous]

You clearly don't trust her. Not a good basis for a relationship.