Girlfriend lied about encounter with male colleague

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP come back and give us an update

I’d dump her ass you can’t trust her anymore

I wouldn’t.

Sure, sure. But who can he trust?

[Anonymous]

Easy to rag on the guy but being cheated on makes you trust very little going forward

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was traveling and asked her how her night was. She said came home earlier than expected from work event. We share a phone line and a couple of days later I was checking my data and snooped into her messaging activity and see she sent a couple of texts late at night. Turned out to be a work colleague with whom she shared a cab home late. Confront her. She deleted messages that were sent after the time she said she came home in panic after confrontation. Now I think she’s cheating. She then asks him to send her texts that were exchanged that were cordial. She said nothing happened but she forgot the time and was having a good time and panicked when I asked how the night was because she never stays out late.
This happened a couple of months ago. No shady activity since. But I just have suspicion something happened. I’ve been cheated on before and she knows that.
I’m thinking of dumping her now. Hate lies and liars

Sounds like she probably did the nasty. Question to ask yourself is why you seem to end up with women who cheat since not all women do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was traveling and asked her how her night was. She said came home earlier than expected from work event. We share a phone line and a couple of days later I was checking my data and snooped into her messaging activity and see she sent a couple of texts late at night. Turned out to be a work colleague with whom she shared a cab home late. Confront her. She deleted messages that were sent after the time she said she came home in panic after confrontation. Now I think she’s cheating. She then asks him to send her texts that were exchanged that were cordial. She said nothing happened but she forgot the time and was having a good time and panicked when I asked how the night was because she never stays out late.
This happened a couple of months ago. No shady activity since. But I just have suspicion something happened. I’ve been cheated on before and she knows that.
I’m thinking of dumping her now. Hate lies and liars

Sounds like she probably did the nasty. Question to ask yourself is why you seem to end up with women who cheat since not all women do.

Doesn’t sound like it at all. But I bet you haven’t been laid

[Anonymous]

Why are sharing lines and snooping in her data? Sounds like you have trust issues to begin with which will never end well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely split along gender lines l

The guys are posting to say a girl deserves to be dumped for being a liar and probably a cheater and the women are posting to somehow twist it into never being the woman's fault no matter what

Yeah, true

[Anonymous]

You are controlling and paranoid. Dump her now to save her the pain of being married to or parenting with someone like you. Go to therapy.

She’s fine. Her issue is that she’s scared of you can can’t say “I was havin fun, I came home late.” I hope she goes to therapy and gets her self esteem back so she doesn’t just find another jerk like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are controlling and paranoid. Dump her now to save her the pain of being married to or parenting with someone like you. Go to therapy.

She’s fine. Her issue is that she’s scared of you can can’t say “I was havin fun, I came home late.” I hope she goes to therapy and gets her self esteem back so she doesn’t just find another jerk like you.

And I hope you stay single so no decent guys get cheated on and lied to

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You clearly don't trust her. Not a good basis for a relationship.

Her untrustworthiness is what makes the basis for the relationship unsound, not him noticing that she is untrustworthy.

Not quite. The weirdest part is him snooping her phone account and looking for evidence. Looks like she's extremely careful and worried that he can get jealous and insecure and that's why she lied. She lied because she cares.

It doesn't matter what OP decides to do. This will happen over and over again, with this woman or any other woman. He's insecure.

You realize when he looked for evidence, he found it right? He’s insecure because he looked, but when he looked he found something, that’s not being insecure, that’s being right.

She’s probably cheating on him because he’s an insecure pussy. If he were a better man, she wouldn’t have to look for new dick.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You clearly don't trust her. Not a good basis for a relationship.

Her untrustworthiness is what makes the basis for the relationship unsound, not him noticing that she is untrustworthy.

Why does it matter? It doesn't matter if he doesn't trust her because he's a suspicious controlling snoop, or if he doesn't trust her because she is lying. It' doesn't matter which one of them is *right*. Either could be true, and we aren't going to get enough info here to figure out it. Neither answer saves the relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You clearly don't trust her. Not a good basis for a relationship.

Her untrustworthiness is what makes the basis for the relationship unsound, not him noticing that she is untrustworthy.

Not quite. The weirdest part is him snooping her phone account and looking for evidence. Looks like she's extremely careful and worried that he can get jealous and insecure and that's why she lied. She lied because she cares.

It doesn't matter what OP decides to do. This will happen over and over again, with this woman or any other woman. He's insecure.

You realize when he looked for evidence, he found it right? He’s insecure because he looked, but when he looked he found something, that’s not being insecure, that’s being right.

She’s probably cheating on him because he’s an insecure pussy. If he were a better man, she wouldn’t have to look for new dick.

This is the right advice OP. Ghost her and get to the gym. Women let a lot of personality flaws go when you have toned muscles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely split along gender lines l

Yup, plenty of women eager to issue a pussy pass to some cheating ho they don't even know. Go, Team Woman! Pathetic but predictable...

[Anonymous]

Trust your gut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely split along gender lines l

Yup, plenty of women eager to issue a pussy pass to some cheating ho they don't even know. Go, Team Woman! Pathetic but predictable...

+1

[Anonymous]

This is a lot. I think you should look into talking to someone about your trust issues...