teacher gave my ds gift to her to someone else

[Anonymous]

my ds gave his teacher a gift of various candy and chocolates
later in the class, they had a contest and when the teacher announced the winner, she handed the goodie bag to her. my son is shy and didn't say anything but I am pretty annoyed that this happened. how to handle, esp.
since he wont see thus teacher again till next year. I told him to forget about it but he wont

[Anonymous]

She probably will not eat it but that's a bit nasty to do. Ignore and don't do anything for that teacher again.

[Anonymous]

This is a time of giving and sharing. Your son’s gift was appreciated for it’s thoughtfulness but the excess of the holidays makes it hard to handle all the gifts of food. Luckily, the winner can take it home and share it with her family. It’s a win win for everyone.

[Anonymous]

That’s really rude! Of course his feelings would be hurt. Anyone’s would. How old is he? If he’s comfortable bringing it up to her, even if in writing, he could do that.

[Anonymous]

she shouldn't have given it away in front of the gift giver. tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a time of giving and sharing. Your son’s gift was appreciated for it’s thoughtfulness but the excess of the holidays makes it hard to handle all the gifts of food. Luckily, the winner can take it home and share it with her family. It’s a win win for everyone.

Regifting should not happen right in front of the giver, shortly after being given the gift. Come on.

[Anonymous]

Huge regifting etiquette fail That was rude and insensitive.

[Anonymous]

Very insensitive. I don't think he can do anything about it though. How old is he?

[Anonymous]

^ I’m just trying to put a positive spin on it for the kid. Although I do think giving teachers gifts has gotten so overboard that the natural regurgitation is now being done openly.

[Anonymous]

End of year school gift: an empty gift card holder. If she asks, say you saved her some time and regifted it for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:End of year school gift: an empty gift card holder. If she asks, say you saved her some time and regifted it for her.

+1. What a jerk.

[Anonymous]

How rude!! I would WANT to say something but would seethe for a few days and then let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ I’m just trying to put a positive spin on it for the kid. Although I do think giving teachers gifts has gotten so overboard that the natural regurgitation is now being done openly.

It is overboard but at least in elementary school its the expectation and kids feel left out if they don't. We had to do 16 gifts - did 10 gift cards, 6 presents (after 10 gift cards I was done) - two classroom teachers, several paraprofessionals, specials teachers... and a few others.. its completely out of hand.

[Anonymous]

Etiquette failure on the teacher's part, but lesson learned for you - don't give such gifts to teachers, OP. Imagine how many they'd have if two or three kids of each of their classes did the same thing.

I don't give to teachers. I personally thank the ones who go above and beyond for my children. My teen is old enough to express his own appreciation, and indeed shows it daily in class by being passionate about the subjects he likes the most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ I’m just trying to put a positive spin on it for the kid. Although I do think giving teachers gifts has gotten so overboard that the natural regurgitation is now being done openly.

It is overboard but at least in elementary school its the expectation and kids feel left out if they don't. We had to do 16 gifts - did 10 gift cards, 6 presents (after 10 gift cards I was done) - two classroom teachers, several paraprofessionals, specials teachers... and a few others.. its completely out of hand.

No. You didn't have to. Most parents don't, actually. Stop it, the teachers don't want all these gifts. They want administration and parents off their backs, and they want to feel appreciated for specific actions they have done for their students.