teacher gave my ds gift to her to someone else

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Etiquette failure on the teacher's part, but lesson learned for you - don't give such gifts to teachers, OP. Imagine how many they'd have if two or three kids of each of their classes did the same thing.

I don't give to teachers. I personally thank the ones who go above and beyond for my children. My teen is old enough to express his own appreciation, and indeed shows it daily in class by being passionate about the subjects he likes the most.

I asked my teen if any classmates give the HS teachers gifts (we don't). Her response was, "Only the suck-ups do."

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Anonymous wrote:^ I’m just trying to put a positive spin on it for the kid. Although I do think giving teachers gifts has gotten so overboard that the natural regurgitation is now being done openly.

It is overboard but at least in elementary school its the expectation and kids feel left out if they don't. We had to do 16 gifts - did 10 gift cards, 6 presents (after 10 gift cards I was done) - two classroom teachers, several paraprofessionals, specials teachers... and a few others.. its completely out of hand.

No. You didn't have to. Most parents don't, actually. Stop it, the teachers don't want all these gifts. They want administration and parents off their backs, and they want to feel appreciated for specific actions they have done for their students.

As a former teacher from before the crazy gift era, I found the whole thing extremely suspect.

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unbelievable. the same thing happened to my daughter. I wonder if it is the same teacher. she wrote a nice card and gave a small bag of chocolates. they had some scavenger hunt and the teacher gave my daughters gift to the winning team. a group of girls that are not nice to my daughter. she was so stunned she didn't know what to do. this is middle school. I thought about not doing gifts but my daughter wanted to. she reported back that only 2 out of 8 staff were genuinely thankful. so no gifts anymore. it was so different in elem. school. and to think, I almost threw a gift card in each bag!! I told my daughter that some.people are tacky and this teacher, who she likes, was rude but to not make a.big deal out of it. we both lost respect for her.

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I think many people these days are health conscious and don't appreciate gifted candy. I know I wouldn't eat it, though I certainly would never hurt and embarrass a child by giving it away in front of them. If I were to pass it on, it would be in a different class. Not an especially thoughtful gift imo, but no need to be rude about it especially when MS/HS gifts are not ubiquitous.

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Anonymous wrote:unbelievable. the same thing happened to my daughter. I wonder if it is the same teacher. she wrote a nice card and gave a small bag of chocolates. they had some scavenger hunt and the teacher gave my daughters gift to the winning team. a group of girls that are not nice to my daughter. she was so stunned she didn't know what to do. this is middle school. I thought about not doing gifts but my daughter wanted to. she reported back that only 2 out of 8 staff were genuinely thankful. so no gifts anymore. it was so different in elem. school. and to think, I almost threw a gift card in each bag!! I told my daughter that some.people are tacky and this teacher, who she likes, was rude but to not make a.big deal out of it. we both lost respect for her.

Ugh parents like you "but she wanted to so I had too" No you as the adult knew it was not a good choice so you tell your kid no and you don't do it.

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is it possible that your teacher had purchased the same item, OP? For the purpose of giving it away?

How old is your DS, are you completely sure they are right?

But really nothing to do about it.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a time of giving and sharing. Your son’s gift was appreciated for it’s thoughtfulness but the excess of the holidays makes it hard to handle all the gifts of food. Luckily, the winner can take it home and share it with her family. It’s a win win for everyone.

Sorry, but no.

That is about as rude of a gift recipient as one can be.

Don't give that woman another present OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:unbelievable. the same thing happened to my daughter. I wonder if it is the same teacher. she wrote a nice card and gave a small bag of chocolates. they had some scavenger hunt and the teacher gave my daughters gift to the winning team. a group of girls that are not nice to my daughter. she was so stunned she didn't know what to do. this is middle school. I thought about not doing gifts but my daughter wanted to. she reported back that only 2 out of 8 staff were genuinely thankful. so no gifts anymore. it was so different in elem. school. and to think, I almost threw a gift card in each bag!! I told my daughter that some.people are tacky and this teacher, who she likes, was rude but to not make a.big deal out of it. we both lost respect for her.

Teachers. Don't. Want. Those. Gifts.

Get it into your thick head.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:unbelievable. the same thing happened to my daughter. I wonder if it is the same teacher. she wrote a nice card and gave a small bag of chocolates. they had some scavenger hunt and the teacher gave my daughters gift to the winning team. a group of girls that are not nice to my daughter. she was so stunned she didn't know what to do. this is middle school. I thought about not doing gifts but my daughter wanted to. she reported back that only 2 out of 8 staff were genuinely thankful. so no gifts anymore. it was so different in elem. school. and to think, I almost threw a gift card in each bag!! I told my daughter that some.people are tacky and this teacher, who she likes, was rude but to not make a.big deal out of it. we both lost respect for her.

Ugh parents like you "but she wanted to so I had too" No you as the adult knew it was not a good choice so you tell your kid no and you don't do it.

What?

Teacher here is beyond rude and tacky. She should be ashamed of herself for having such poor manners.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:unbelievable. the same thing happened to my daughter. I wonder if it is the same teacher. she wrote a nice card and gave a small bag of chocolates. they had some scavenger hunt and the teacher gave my daughters gift to the winning team. a group of girls that are not nice to my daughter. she was so stunned she didn't know what to do. this is middle school. I thought about not doing gifts but my daughter wanted to. she reported back that only 2 out of 8 staff were genuinely thankful. so no gifts anymore. it was so different in elem. school. and to think, I almost threw a gift card in each bag!! I told my daughter that some.people are tacky and this teacher, who she likes, was rude but to not make a.big deal out of it. we both lost respect for her.

Teachers. Don't. Want. Those. Gifts.

Get it into your thick head.

You are rude. Learn how to graciously receive gifts. It is not very hard to do.

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Very rude.

Hearing these stories makes me so glad o didnt do any gifts this year.

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I always ask my kids to observe what their teachers like to drink and eat, and report back to me. That helps minimize unwanted gifts since I usually get a good sense of who DOES like candy, who likes Starbucks or Dunkin' etc. I do think the majority of teachers don't want candy though. I know I don't. But I would never EVER be rude to a child.

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Lots of people are health conscious these days and sugary gifts aren’t so welcome. Yes teacher was rude but at least your gift was used by someone else. It wasn’t the right gift for the teacher obviously but you had no way to know that.

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Sounds like the teacher misplaced her bag of prizes and panicked.

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Anonymous wrote:She probably will not eat it but that's a bit nasty to do. Ignore and don't do anything for that teacher again.

Give her coal next year. Or maybe a broomstick that she can ride off on.