Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience

[Anonymous]

If you did not cheat during marriage how has it been for you in the dating world? Are you dating? What do you want out of a more mature relationship? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? How is your libido?

[Anonymous]

Initially it was awful as I was clueless about dating...period....and really clueless about on line dating. If you are not very selective and questioning you can meet a lot of men who in no way live up to their profiles. I'm sure this works the other way as well with women using 15 year old photos etc. I thought my libido was pretty dead after many years of a loveless marriage but then I met a very nice man and it suddenly revived. When the "moment" arrived my anxiety disappeared and I really cut loose. He and I are still dating but we both like our independence and I don't see it as a long term relationship but I'm hopeful that someday I will be in one.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for your honest reply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Initially it was awful as I was clueless about dating...period....and really clueless about on line dating. If you are not very selective and questioning you can meet a lot of men who in no way live up to their profiles. I'm sure this works the other way as well with women using 15 year old photos etc. I thought my libido was pretty dead after many years of a loveless marriage but then I met a very nice man and it suddenly revived. When the "moment" arrived my anxiety disappeared and I really cut loose. He and I are still dating but we both like our independence and I don't see it as a long term relationship but I'm hopeful that someday I will be in one.

At this age, women suffer from quality, men from quantity. You have to go through a lot of guys to find a decent one but a decent man can meet five women and 3-4 are normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Initially it was awful as I was clueless about dating...period....and really clueless about on line dating. If you are not very selective and questioning you can meet a lot of men who in no way live up to their profiles. I'm sure this works the other way as well with women using 15 year old photos etc. I thought my libido was pretty dead after many years of a loveless marriage but then I met a very nice man and it suddenly revived. When the "moment" arrived my anxiety disappeared and I really cut loose. He and I are still dating but we both like our independence and I don't see it as a long term relationship but I'm hopeful that someday I will be in one.

I am a recent divorcee, 53 and I'm hoping to find love. I know there is someone out there for me, I just have to find him. Not ready yet, but I know I will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you did not cheat during marriage how has it been for you in the dating world? Are you dating? What do you want out of a more mature relationship? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? How is your libido?

After 20 year marriage with little to no sex in last 5 years I am alive again. It is so wonderful to enjoy a loving relationship with amazing sex with someone I love again. Sex at least every other day. I am in late 50’s. Life is in color again

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At this age, women suffer from quality, men from quantity. You have to go through a lot of guys to find a decent one but a decent man can meet five women and 3-4 are normal.

Disagree. I'm a divorced guy in my 50s, and the quality of single women in their 50s is low, especially if you're doing online dating. I think a lot of guys in their 50s give up on OLD and go for in-person approaches. In person it is a lot easier to get a date with a woman 10 or 20 years younger than you than it is online. She can see that you are not a broken-down old wreck, and you can see that she's not lying about her age, weight, or appearance either.

(I now cover my ears and await the screams of rage that the idea of 50-something men dating 30- and 40-something women always provokes on DCUM.)

[taketothebank]

If you did not cheat during marriage how has it been for you in the dating world? Are you dating? What do you want out of a more mature relationship? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? How is your libido?

I am a 54 year old divorced man and the dating world has been good so far. I want a relationship where we can share time together (e.g., dinner, travel, etc.) and see where it goes from there.

My libido is great, thanks for asking. As I result, I want sex to be a material part of any equation.

[Anonymous]

Late 60s M here. Most on line dating turned out Ok. Two real crazies, one superb woman and the rest were nice ladies who were just not for me. One of the crazies was younger by 20 years or so while the rest were in my age range. The superb lady, after some passionate kisses (really could have fallen for her), let me know after discovering that I was conservative that she couldn’t continue seeing me. While disappointing it was probably best not to give your heart to someone incompatible (although she was just simply lovely). Several decades ago I would have tried to convince her to reconsider, now-a-days...No.

Now I’m trying mixers for folks in my age range. One this week. Will allow for face to face contact. I’ll see how that turns out and post it here if folks are interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Initially it was awful as I was clueless about dating...period....and really clueless about on line dating. If you are not very selective and questioning you can meet a lot of men who in no way live up to their profiles. I'm sure this works the other way as well with women using 15 year old photos etc. I thought my libido was pretty dead after many years of a loveless marriage but then I met a very nice man and it suddenly revived. When the "moment" arrived my anxiety disappeared and I really cut loose. He and I are still dating but we both like our independence and I don't see it as a long term relationship but I'm hopeful that someday I will be in one.

At this age, women suffer from quality, men from quantity. You have to go through a lot of guys to find a decent one but a decent man can meet five women and 3-4 are normal.

Guy: 3-4 normal out of 5 ? More like 1-2 out if 5 !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 60s M here. Most on line dating turned out Ok. Two real crazies, one superb woman and the rest were nice ladies who were just not for me. One of the crazies was younger by 20 years or so while the rest were in my age range. The superb lady, after some passionate kisses (really could have fallen for her), let me know after discovering that I was conservative that she couldn’t continue seeing me. While disappointing it was probably best not to give your heart to someone incompatible (although she was just simply lovely). Several decades ago I would have tried to convince her to reconsider, now-a-days...No.

Now I’m trying mixers for folks in my age range. One this week. Will allow for face to face contact. I’ll see how that turns out and post it here if folks are interested.

Face to face mixers - like a meet up group? How did it go for you if you attended already?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late 60s M here. Most on line dating turned out Ok. Two real crazies, one superb woman and the rest were nice ladies who were just not for me. One of the crazies was younger by 20 years or so while the rest were in my age range. The superb lady, after some passionate kisses (really could have fallen for her), let me know after discovering that I was conservative that she couldn’t continue seeing me. While disappointing it was probably best not to give your heart to someone incompatible (although she was just simply lovely). Several decades ago I would have tried to convince her to reconsider, now-a-days...No.

Now I’m trying mixers for folks in my age range. One this week. Will allow for face to face contact. I’ll see how that turns out and post it here if folks are interested.

Face to face mixers - like a meet up group? How did it go for you if you attended already?

And where are these mixers? Do tell!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Initially it was awful as I was clueless about dating...period....and really clueless about on line dating. If you are not very selective and questioning you can meet a lot of men who in no way live up to their profiles. I'm sure this works the other way as well with women using 15 year old photos etc. I thought my libido was pretty dead after many years of a loveless marriage but then I met a very nice man and it suddenly revived. When the "moment" arrived my anxiety disappeared and I really cut loose. He and I are still dating but we both like our independence and I don't see it as a long term relationship but I'm hopeful that someday I will be in one.

At this age, women suffer from quality, men from quantity. You have to go through a lot of guys to find a decent one but a decent man can meet five women and 3-4 are normal.

Guy: 3-4 normal out of 5 ? More like 1-2 out if 5 !

Agreed. They ain’t normal.

[Anonymous]

Finding someone and having a healthy sexual relationship after 50 is difficult. I just gave up and flew to Brazil. There I found a beautiful 30something who enjoys having sex every night. Wh have been togather five years and it still is as exciting as the first time.

[Anonymous]

Tip for over 50 men who want to meet women their age - join all these new political groups or your local party. If you're liberal, it's like 75% women. If you're single and nice all the married women will be open to setting you up with their single female friends once you become friends with them. Lots of women have a few single female friends but know very few single guys.

So if you're hesitant about online dating (I would never do it - I probably have an anxiety order, but I would be worried I would meet a crazy person), this is the best way to meet women these days. 100%