How many days constitutes ghosting?
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Anonymous
| I've been going out with a guy for about a couple months. I thought things were going well, but now it's been 4 days and nothing. Have I been ghosted? How many days would you wait before assuming things were over? |
Anonymous
| 7, personally. But I wouldn't care either way. Just, continue as if you're not going to hear from him. |
Anonymous
| Have you tried calling him? |
Anonymous
| Is he not responding to your calls/texts? |
Anonymous
| Have you reached out to him? |
Anonymous
| I have not reached out to him...I know, real mature. Any text suggestions? |
Anonymous
| Been there. Maybe not ghosting yet, but def shows a lack of interest. I would text him and see what happens, but not a good sign at all. Sorry. |
Anonymous
| You’ve been seeing him regularly for months. He’s probably tired of being the first one to make contact. |
Anonymous
| Just text: hey, what's up? been busy. you? want to meet up on the wknd? |
Anonymous
This is perfect. Do this OP. Will get your answer. |
Anonymous
So... maybe he's writing on a forum about "that chick who ghosted him"! |
Anonymous
| Just send him a text saying hello and asking about getting together. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| If I’d dated someone steadily for a couple months and then they went silent for four days with no warning, I’d be concerned for their well-being initially. If I’d sent a couple texts with no response during that time, I wouldn’t want them even if they weren’t ghosting me. It’s considerate to let people know that you are alive. |
Anonymous
| How regularly have you seen him over these couple of months/how many dates total? At this point, I'd assume you know something about his life that you could text asking about: how did your big presentation go/how was your weekend with your parents/do you want to see that movie we talked about this weekend? |