How many days constitutes ghosting?

[Anonymous]

The people who think you not initiating a text could be interpreted as lack of interest haven’t dated in the digital age. It’s a different world. You aren’t coming back from 4 days of no texts unless it’s a booty call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people who think you not initiating a text could be interpreted as lack of interest haven’t dated in the digital age. It’s a different world. You aren’t coming back from 4 days of no texts unless it’s a booty call.

Not sure what you are saying here. It seems like you are saying two, slightly contradictory, things in the same post.

[Anonymous]

Man, I’m so glad texting wasn’t yet a thing when I was dating. You had to call the person, or not. None of these texting mind games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, I’m so glad texting wasn’t yet a thing when I was dating. You had to call the person, or not. None of these texting mind games.

Dating was much better in the earlier days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m also in OPs shoes, except I did send a text, and got a response, but then it’s been radio silence since. So I’m assuming we are officially unofficially done.

I've had this happen to me recently, too.

It's like a slightly more polite version of the "ghost." Basically, the other person will respond if you text them, but usually after a delay and only in a politely noncommittal way. And they never initiate conversation with you. It's possible that I misread things, but I stopped initiating after a while, which I assume is what they want.

Been there ...it’s the worst!

Oh see I would much rather have it fade out like this in early dating rather than actually having the awkward conversation. And this holds whether or not I'm the one doing the fading or being faded.

[Anonymous]

Ghosting. It’s apparent in apparition.

When does someone deserve more than silence? When both parties respect each other.

It’s hard to state, this love is over. Ghoster is weak.

[Anonymous]

Update: He got back in touch the next day but then has kind of ghosted this week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update: He got back in touch the next day but then has kind of ghosted this week.

Do nonot give him any more of your time! You aren’t dating him and he’s not your boyfriend. He’s giving you just enough so that when he can’t be with his main girl, girlfriend or wife he’s got access to you. Drop him and block him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: He got back in touch the next day but then has kind of ghosted this week.

Do nonot give him any more of your time! You aren’t dating him and he’s not your boyfriend. He’s giving you just enough so that when he can’t be with his main girl, girlfriend or wife he’s got access to you. Drop him and block him!

I kind of agree but don’t go that far! Just whatever he gives, give less. If he waits 4 days- wait a week!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: He got back in touch the next day but then has kind of ghosted this week.

Do nonot give him any more of your time! You aren’t dating him and he’s not your boyfriend. He’s giving you just enough so that when he can’t be with his main girl, girlfriend or wife he’s got access to you. Drop him and block him!

I kind of agree but don’t go that far! Just whatever he gives, give less. If he waits 4 days- wait a week!

+1

This kind of stuff is common among younger people now. As others have noted, this guy isn't your boyfriend. He's just someone who is dating different women, including you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: He got back in touch the next day but then has kind of ghosted this week.

Do nonot give him any more of your time! You aren’t dating him and he’s not your boyfriend. He’s giving you just enough so that when he can’t be with his main girl, girlfriend or wife he’s got access to you. Drop him and block him!

I kind of agree but don’t go that far! Just whatever he gives, give less. If he waits 4 days- wait a week!

Do not do this. Have some respect for yourself and be with a guy who wants to be with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: He got back in touch the next day but then has kind of ghosted this week.

Do nonot give him any more of your time! You aren’t dating him and he’s not your boyfriend. He’s giving you just enough so that when he can’t be with his main girl, girlfriend or wife he’s got access to you. Drop him and block him!

I kind of agree but don’t go that far! Just whatever he gives, give less. If he waits 4 days- wait a week!

Do not do this. Have some respect for yourself and be with a guy who wants to be with you.

If OP is young, this is something she is going to run into a lot. With dating apps, men have learned that they have to contact a huge amount of women to get a response, so they compensate by keeping a steady pipeline of women going, unless they are in a committed relationship.

[Anonymous]

OP, be direct, since you've been dating a couple months and frankly, you shouldn't waste much more time or energy if its not going anywhere.

"Hey, I get the feeling things are cooling down for you. Are they? Tell me where you are on this. "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: He got back in touch the next day but then has kind of ghosted this week.

Do nonot give him any more of your time! You aren’t dating him and he’s not your boyfriend. He’s giving you just enough so that when he can’t be with his main girl, girlfriend or wife he’s got access to you. Drop him and block him!

I kind of agree but don’t go that far! Just whatever he gives, give less. If he waits 4 days- wait a week!

Do not do this. Have some respect for yourself and be with a guy who wants to be with you.

If OP is young, this is something she is going to run into a lot. With dating apps, men have learned that they have to contact a huge amount of women to get a response, so they compensate by keeping a steady pipeline of women going, unless they are in a committed relationship.[/quote


She might run into it but doesn’t mean she needs to tolerate it. There are still guys who are not flbois . You get the respect you demand. Don’t waste time on game playing boys if you want a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, be direct, since you've been dating a couple months and frankly, you shouldn't waste much more time or energy if its not going anywhere.

"Hey, I get the feeling things are cooling down for you. Are they? Tell me where you are on this. "

And don’t do this. Don’t over communicate and beg. He’s told you where you rank in his priorities. Either drop him or accept being his booty call.