What makes a guy a loser?

[Anonymous]

How do you know a guy is a loser?

I’m dating a 29 year old who has a masters degree in a liberal arts field, has been consistently employed since he graduated and gets promoted every year even though he currently only makes 100k. He works a lot and seems capable in his profession.

The red flags that seem loserish to me:
- beholden to his mom. Must see family twice a week. It’s very hard for him to break engagements with them.
- his mom buys him clothes. He never shops for himself.
- she also texts him to remind him to get his hair cut and go to the dentist.
- his friends are so immature. Either underemployed or are just not ready to settle down at all. Approaching 30 and none of them are married.
- he doesn’t have any hobbies or passions outside his job. He plays video games and reads.
- eats poorly. Doesn’t excercise. Sleeps in till 1 pm on weekends.

Am I being too picky?

[Anonymous]

He's 29, FFS. If those things were the definition of loser, 90% of guys would be losers.

And this one has a job! And is decently paid! And doesn't live in his parents' basement!

Not a loser, OP. Maybe immature, but not a loser.

[Anonymous]

that's not a loser, that's a dork.

[Anonymous]

The red flag is that his mom routinely does stuff for him. If you marry him, you become the new mom. Some people are okay with that. I am not.

Doesn't make him a loser, but it is a red flag.

[Anonymous]

No job, bad teeth and a small penis.

[Anonymous]

I love this line: he currently only makes 100k.

You should leave him alone so he can mature and find a better person than you to share his life with.

[Anonymous]

1. Unattractive and not rich.
2. Hot, but he’s an ex.

[Anonymous]

- Still under the umbilical cord of mom or dad
- Is an incel
- Is older than 6 and is a "picky eater."

The job, income, hobbies, are irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

I would not date someone who at 29 did not make doctors appointments and hair appointments on his own. Yikes. I also would not date someone who plays video games.

[Anonymous]

I know PP is being sarcastic, but I seriously cannot think of a guy I know (I'm 30) who makes less than 100k, with the exception of 2 friends in surgical residencies.

It's kind of a given depending on your circle I guess. To each his/ her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not date someone who at 29 did not make doctors appointments and hair appointments on his own. Yikes. I also would not date someone who plays video games.

I wouldn't date someone who wouldn't date someone who plays video games, so I guess it works out in the end.

[Anonymous]

A guy that thinks he's fly, always talk' about what he wants, but just sits on his broke ass

Hanging out the passenger side, of his best friend's ride tryin to holler at me

Doesn't have a car, so he's walking

He lives at home with his Mama

Has a shorty, but doesn't show love

Wanna get with me with no money

His game is kinda week, can't get with a dead beat ass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know PP is being sarcastic, but I seriously cannot think of a guy I know (I'm 30) who makes less than 100k, with the exception of 2 friends in surgical residencies.

It's kind of a given depending on your circle I guess. To each his/ her own.

There are lots of people in newsrooms and nonprofits who do not earn $100K.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

A guy that thinks he's fly, always talk' about what he wants, but just sits on his broke ass

Hanging out the passenger side, of his best friend's ride tryin to holler at me

Doesn't have a car, so he's walking

He lives at home with his Mama

Has a shorty, but doesn't show love

Wanna get with me with no money

His game is kinda week, can't get with a dead beat ass

+1, but that's a scrub.

This is a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's 29, FFS. If those things were the definition of loser, 90% of guys would be losers.

And this one has a job! And is decently paid! And doesn't live in his parents' basement!

Not a loser, OP. Maybe immature, but not a loser.

Wow. Since when did the bar drop so low that women should now be impressed with men who are employed? This is so sad. Glad my own (much higher) standards reflect my self-worth.