The healthy obsessed moms

[Anonymous]

We had a meeting after school to go over snacks for 5th grade Halloween party and game ideas. One mom dominated the entire meeting and said we should only do smart pop and oranges for the kids. I am all for healthy options, but it is Halloween. Another mom said maybe one halloween cookie and this lady shut it down. I have been thru 3 kids in up to 5th grade and have never seen an oranges as the main halloween party snack. There are no allergies.

Does anyone else ever deal with dominating moms like this? Are most schools now doing just a fruit for parties?

[Anonymous]

I’m usually of the mind that there’s too much junk served at kid functions, but one of the most valuable lessons we can teach our children is balance. So serve unlimited healthy choices at the party and provide enough small treats for everyone to have one. She sounds like about as much fun as gum in your hair, but I get that her intent is good. Moderation over deprivation.

[Anonymous]

No allergies? Consider yourself lucky! Our class has gluten allergies, nut allergies, sugar allergies. One child only eats organic products. It’s a f’ing headache.

[Anonymous]

Serious question OP, why is this so important to you? If you're so hell bent on giving your kid a load of junk, why can't you just wait until after school hours to do it?

Do you not have anything else to do with your time? Do you secretly want to sabotage everyone else's kid? Do you want to make sure that everyone else's kid is eating junk too so you don't need to feel bad about it? I'm honestly trying to understand your reasoning and none of the things I can think of make any sense to me.

Your kid is in 5th grade you said? You don't think they can survive without junk for a few hours while they're at school? You think they'll die without a halloween party with junk food because just dressing up isn't enough?

I'm saying this in the nicest possible way, but I really think it's time for you to step back a bit from your kid's life. They will survive a day without junk food. Really. And they'll also survive a halloween without you planning out their class snack. I promise.

[Anonymous]

My guess is two mom's who didn't attended the planning meeting will show up with a way of cupcakes and candy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question OP, why is this so important to you? If you're so hell bent on giving your kid a load of junk, why can't you just wait until after school hours to do it?

Do you not have anything else to do with your time? Do you secretly want to sabotage everyone else's kid? Do you want to make sure that everyone else's kid is eating junk too so you don't need to feel bad about it? I'm honestly trying to understand your reasoning and none of the things I can think of make any sense to me.

Your kid is in 5th grade you said? You don't think they can survive without junk for a few hours while they're at school? You think they'll die without a halloween party with junk food because just dressing up isn't enough?

I'm saying this in the nicest possible way, but I really think it's time for you to step back a bit from your kid's life. They will survive a day without junk food. Really. And they'll also survive a halloween without you planning out their class snack. I promise.

You are THAT mom. It's a freaking Halloween party, there should be sweets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is two mom's who didn't attended the planning meeting will show up with a way of cupcakes and candy.

Yes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question OP, why is this so important to you? If you're so hell bent on giving your kid a load of junk, why can't you just wait until after school hours to do it?

Do you not have anything else to do with your time? Do you secretly want to sabotage everyone else's kid? Do you want to make sure that everyone else's kid is eating junk too so you don't need to feel bad about it? I'm honestly trying to understand your reasoning and none of the things I can think of make any sense to me.

Your kid is in 5th grade you said? You don't think they can survive without junk for a few hours while they're at school? You think they'll die without a halloween party with junk food because just dressing up isn't enough?

I'm saying this in the nicest possible way, but I really think it's time for you to step back a bit from your kid's life. They will survive a day without junk food. Really. And they'll also survive a halloween without you planning out their class snack. I promise.

Lol you sound unhinged

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a meeting after school to go over snacks for 5th grade Halloween party and game ideas. One mom dominated the entire meeting and said we should only do smart pop and oranges for the kids. I am all for healthy options, but it is Halloween. Another mom said maybe one halloween cookie and this lady shut it down. I have been thru 3 kids in up to 5th grade and have never seen an oranges as the main halloween party snack. There are no allergies.

Does anyone else ever deal with dominating moms like this? Are most schools now doing just a fruit for parties?

Let her buy the fruit and smart pop (whatever that is), and just bring what you want to bring. When she gives you the side eye, just tell her you must have misheard, with the sweetest smile in the world. I agree with others that kids are going to bring in a ton of snacks anyway, so, there will be treats!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question OP, why is this so important to you? If you're so hell bent on giving your kid a load of junk, why can't you just wait until after school hours to do it?

Do you not have anything else to do with your time? Do you secretly want to sabotage everyone else's kid? Do you want to make sure that everyone else's kid is eating junk too so you don't need to feel bad about it? I'm honestly trying to understand your reasoning and none of the things I can think of make any sense to me.

Your kid is in 5th grade you said? You don't think they can survive without junk for a few hours while they're at school? You think they'll die without a halloween party with junk food because just dressing up isn't enough?

I'm saying this in the nicest possible way, but I really think it's time for you to step back a bit from your kid's life. They will survive a day without junk food. Really. And they'll also survive a halloween without you planning out their class snack. I promise.

OP suggested one cookie per child. You have issues. I feel sorry for your children.

[Anonymous]

Op don’t worry there will always be a mom who will show up with some sweets because they didn’t read the instructions ... did this one year cos I didn’t read that valentines shouldn’t have candy ... they weren’t rejected , ofcourse some parents may have thrown the 2 pieces of mini KitKats and 2 kisses out but no one complained to me

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't dwell on it. Most kids mostly love oranges and popcorn, and besides, they will get plenty of sweets after trick or treating. Nbd. It's not like the kids will be deprived.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question OP, why is this so important to you? If you're so hell bent on giving your kid a load of junk, why can't you just wait until after school hours to do it?

Do you not have anything else to do with your time? Do you secretly want to sabotage everyone else's kid? Do you want to make sure that everyone else's kid is eating junk too so you don't need to feel bad about it? I'm honestly trying to understand your reasoning and none of the things I can think of make any sense to me.

Your kid is in 5th grade you said? You don't think they can survive without junk for a few hours while they're at school? You think they'll die without a halloween party with junk food because just dressing up isn't enough?

I'm saying this in the nicest possible way, but I really think it's time for you to step back a bit from your kid's life. They will survive a day without junk food. Really. And they'll also survive a halloween without you planning out their class snack. I promise.

OP could turn everything you wrote right back on you. You don’t think your kid can manage one day with a little bit of candy? You think they’ll die if the eat a cookie? Maybe YOU need to step back a bit from your kid’s life. They will survive a day with some junk food. Really. And they’ll also survive a Halloween without you policing their class snack. I promise.

[Anonymous]

We had a group of these moms at our school. We quietly went along with the planning since they were so vocal...but then we simply showed up at the class party with Halloween cupcakes and other normal Halloween junk food treats. Guess what the kids chose?

We were the older, more veteran moms BTW.

[Anonymous]

I get the healthy moms. Because every various adult they interact with from oct 21-oct 31 feels like giving them a seer or candy.

For two of my boys, it really derails their overall nutrition to add too many sweets in. It’s not like they will eat healthy things PLUS the sweets. They will refuse healthy things on those kinds of days. Their moods are awful and completely different on the days that (I will admit that I am responsible) they have a cookie from the grocery store, the doctor gives them two lollipops, the neighbor says she has some Halloween chocolates for them, and preschool offered a cupcake because someone brought them in; and we were out of fruit so I gave them chips ahoy for a morning snack. Etc. I’ve had those days, and the moods and meltdowns are not pretty. Miserable for everyone.
My other child can handle it. She acts a tiny bit crazier but still eats a healthy dinner. My boys will forgo it because it’s not sweet too.

So, we need to all step back and limit at least 50% of the seeets we offer. We all think ‘a little is just ok,’but they’re getting it from so many sources.