The healthy obsessed moms

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We live in NJ and the schools haven't been allowed to serve snacks at class parties for years. Too many food allergies, dietary issues, etc. I'm surprised you guys are still allowed to do this!

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that moms who are obsessive about nutrition for their kids are usually out of shape themselves. That is all.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question OP, why is this so important to you? If you're so hell bent on giving your kid a load of junk, why can't you just wait until after school hours to do it?

Do you not have anything else to do with your time? Do you secretly want to sabotage everyone else's kid? Do you want to make sure that everyone else's kid is eating junk too so you don't need to feel bad about it? I'm honestly trying to understand your reasoning and none of the things I can think of make any sense to me.

Your kid is in 5th grade you said? You don't think they can survive without junk for a few hours while they're at school? You think they'll die without a halloween party with junk food because just dressing up isn't enough?

I'm saying this in the nicest possible way, but I really think it's time for you to step back a bit from your kid's life. They will survive a day without junk food. Really. And they'll also survive a halloween without you planning out their class snack. I promise.

Mothers like you are intolerable. Literally intolerable.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question OP, why is this so important to you? If you're so hell bent on giving your kid a load of junk, why can't you just wait until after school hours to do it?

Do you not have anything else to do with your time? Do you secretly want to sabotage everyone else's kid? Do you want to make sure that everyone else's kid is eating junk too so you don't need to feel bad about it? I'm honestly trying to understand your reasoning and none of the things I can think of make any sense to me.

Your kid is in 5th grade you said? You don't think they can survive without junk for a few hours while they're at school? You think they'll die without a halloween party with junk food because just dressing up isn't enough?

I'm saying this in the nicest possible way, but I really think it's time for you to step back a bit from your kid's life. They will survive a day without junk food. Really. And they'll also survive a halloween without you planning out their class snack. I promise.

We found the problem mom.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a meeting after school to go over snacks for 5th grade Halloween party and game ideas. One mom dominated the entire meeting and said we should only do smart pop and oranges for the kids. I am all for healthy options, but it is Halloween. Another mom said maybe one halloween cookie and this lady shut it down. I have been thru 3 kids in up to 5th grade and have never seen an oranges as the main halloween party snack. There are no allergies.

Does anyone else ever deal with dominating moms like this? Are most schools now doing just a fruit for parties?

Let her buy the fruit and smart pop (whatever that is), and just bring what you want to bring. When she gives you the side eye, just tell her you must have misheard, with the sweetest smile in the world. I agree with others that kids are going to bring in a ton of snacks anyway, so, there will be treats!

Yes.

Do this.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't dwell on it. Most kids mostly love oranges and popcorn, and besides, they will get plenty of sweets after trick or treating. Nbd. It's not like the kids will be deprived.

It is a party. Seriously.

Bring a treat for the kids OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I get the healthy moms. Because every various adult they interact with from oct 21-oct 31 feels like giving them a seer or candy.

For two of my boys, it really derails their overall nutrition to add too many sweets in. It’s not like they will eat healthy things PLUS the sweets. They will refuse healthy things on those kinds of days. Their moods are awful and completely different on the days that (I will admit that I am responsible) they have a cookie from the grocery store, the doctor gives them two lollipops, the neighbor says she has some Halloween chocolates for them, and preschool offered a cupcake because someone brought them in; and we were out of fruit so I gave them chips ahoy for a morning snack. Etc. I’ve had those days, and the moods and meltdowns are not pretty. Miserable for everyone.
My other child can handle it. She acts a tiny bit crazier but still eats a healthy dinner. My boys will forgo it because it’s not sweet too.

So, we need to all step back and limit at least 50% of the seeets we offer. We all think ‘a little is just ok,’but they’re getting it from so many sources.

This is the elementary forum.

NOT the preschool forum.

We are talking about kids who are 18 months from junior high and 2 years from being teenagers.

A cookie will not sent them over the edge.

They are 10 and 11, NOT a toddler or 3 year old like your kid.

If your 10 or 11 year old is having a meltdown because they ate a dum dum lollipop, then you have not succeeded at parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:We are talking 10/11 year olds, not preschoolers. They are big enough to choose between oranges and kit kats.

Yep.

I think a lot of these one cookie is pure evil posters are moms of toddlers and pre school kids, not moms of preteens.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a group of these moms at our school. We quietly went along with the planning since they were so vocal...but then we simply showed up at the class party with Halloween cupcakes and other normal Halloween junk food treats. Guess what the kids chose?

We were the older, more veteran moms BTW.

Yes, this the way to do it. The domineering mom wants to bring in oranges and another healthful item, let her. Someone else should bring in cupcakes or cookies or brownies without announcing it ahead of time. Done.

We don't eat many sweets at our house, and no one at work has a candy bowl or brings cake in. I think the idea of bringing junk food (or any food, really) as a snack after a kids' sports game is bizarre. But people need to have some perspective. Halloween is all about letting loose and having treats. It shouldn't be a battleground.

+1. The focus on healthy food should be the norm - day-to-day, school lunches, snacks at home etc. - with the Halloween party the exception where treats are allowed. But something tells me the domineering mom wants all treats banned at any event her precious children are a part of.

I'm the non-American PP. It's actually one of my worries that my kids will end up becoming obese because of how normal junk food is in the US. Even in my office, people bring in doughnuts to share in the morning and it's not once in a while. Not to mention that I'm one of the few normal-weight folks in my department. I feed my kids healthy food but I have no control when they go over to a neighbor's house or at their school unless I'm also there, but I'm not a helicopter mom so I just let them be. So I get the healthy food mom in the OP's description. Instead of vilifying her, maybe see her point of view? Maybe expand the list of healthy items like homemade banana-zucchini muffins etc?

Nothing homemade allowed in most schools
Again, it is Halloween. 1 of 2 parties all year in school. Like another mom said. I am against junk and sugar drinks for sports snacks (I hate any snacks after sport) and multiple birthdays a month (our school thankfully stopped that) and always make my kids lunch so they eat healthy. I do allow treats here and there and the 2 class parties the kids get each year should be one of them.

The mom is on a power trip.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question OP, why is this so important to you? If you're so hell bent on giving your kid a load of junk, why can't you just wait until after school hours to do it?

Do you not have anything else to do with your time? Do you secretly want to sabotage everyone else's kid? Do you want to make sure that everyone else's kid is eating junk too so you don't need to feel bad about it? I'm honestly trying to understand your reasoning and none of the things I can think of make any sense to me.

Your kid is in 5th grade you said? You don't think they can survive without junk for a few hours while they're at school? You think they'll die without a halloween party with junk food because just dressing up isn't enough?

I'm saying this in the nicest possible way, but I really think it's time for you to step back a bit from your kid's life. They will survive a day without junk food. Really. And they'll also survive a halloween without you planning out their class snack. I promise.

We found the problem mom.

Haha. OP is busted. Crazy dominating mom is in da house!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Planning a Halloween party for fifth graders? Unheard of at my kids school and mine is a parent participation program!

Well I guess you don’t go to OP’s school. I know our public the parents have to do everything. It is ridiculous. The treachers should plan some activities, ask for one mom to collect money to get food/drink/supplies, and ask for a few volunteers to help.

Having moms on power trips trying to dictate a trivial party? No it’s sucks. But that is how my kids school is. And the parties suck. Candy corn bingo for 11yr olds, no? I am not sure why teachers who complain about their rigid curriculum can not use the day to think outside of the box for math, science, and reading games for Halloween.

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I am with you OP. Those people are super annoying. I think part of the problem is schools that force a whole grade to party plan together rather than just each class do it s own thing. My dd’s school does this (ds’s does not) and it seems to not be a good process.

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Anonymous wrote:I am with you OP. Those people are super annoying. I think part of the problem is schools that force a whole grade to party plan together rather than just each class do it s own thing. My dd’s school does this (ds’s does not) and it seems to not be a good process.

One year we had 4 classes and 2 room parents in each. One class only gave the kids apple slices and pretzels. The other 3 classes had one mini cupcake or cookie, one fruit, and one cheese stick decorated as ghosts. The other class figured it out and was totally ticked off. Those 2 health moms were boo’d.

I hate the pretzels and popcorn. It is so messy for the class.

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Yes, OP. This is why I dont volunteer to be a class parent. I can't stand working with people like this. Since you volunteered though, my best advice is to just let it go this year and say you are busy next year.

The parent from another country here saying a cookie at Halloween is the cause of the US's obesity epidemic is a perfect example of why it isn't worth arguing with or undermining them. They've gone off the deep end with their own self righteousness and no words except their own failures will bring them back around.

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If the school has their own policy that is one thing. But for probably every other class in the entire school to have a treat for the party, and this mom decides to use her child's class as a platform for fruit on Halloween, well is insufferable and ridiculous.