Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why, but the difference is interesting to me. In some families, the parents refer to the other with the pronoun “your” when talking to their children. Like, your dad went to the store to get milk. Please pick up your clothes like your mom asked. Your dad will pick you up from school today. In other families, they drop the your. “Larla, be sure to ask Mom first.”

Which do you fall into? Or both, depending on the day?

[Anonymous]

Dad

[Anonymous]

both

[Anonymous]

We say papa, and we never use "your". If I've ever done that in the past, it would be because I was extremely annoyed at him about something. It's a much colder way to say it.

But then again, our kids are still quite young. Maybe I would say "your" if I was talking to a teenager. Not sure.

[Anonymous]

Dad.

[Anonymous]

It’s always infuriated me / made my skin crawl when people drop the “my” when telling a story or talking about their own family. Your dad is not my dad, my dad is not your dad. Dad isn’t sufficient and sounds weird. “Dad and I went to a nats game” implies you and I share a father.

I’ve noticed it’s mostly with super cliquey awkwardly close, southern baptist type families.

[Anonymous]

Hey PP--the OP was asking how you speak to your kids, not to the world in general.

When I speak to my kids, it's Dad. When I speak to others, I use my husband's first name.

[Anonymous]

We use Dad/Mom. Saying "your mom" or "your dad" seems weirdly cold to me. Or like you're divorced.

[Anonymous]

Dad is my kids name for my husband in addition to the role he holds. So I’ll say, “Dad and I will be at your softball game.” I also say, “text your dad and let him know we’re late”
Answer is both.

[Anonymous]

Dad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We use Dad/Mom. Saying "your mom" or "your dad" seems weirdly cold to me. Or like you're divorced.

I'm divorced and I still say dad, not "your dad." "Your dad" sounds like I'm mad at him.

[Anonymous]

Dad

[Anonymous]

both; depends on context.

[Anonymous]

Your Father!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We use Dad/Mom. Saying "your mom" or "your dad" seems weirdly cold to me. Or like you're divorced.

I'm divorced and I still say dad, not "your dad." "Your dad" sounds like I'm mad at him.

Also divorced and say 'dad'. I said your dad for awhile and kids got upset and looked panicky, like saying 'your dad' means he's their problem to deal with alone. He's abusive though.