Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the people who say "your dad," do your kids say "my dad" or just "Dad?"

When speaking to me, she says "Daddy." ("Daddy said I could have a cookie.") When speaking to other kids, she says "my daddy."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s another weird one. My aunt and uncle used to call each other mother and papa speaking to each other!

That's actually pretty common among a certain set of older people. I know several elderly couples who refer to each other as "Mother" or whatever.

[Anonymous]

We are a blended family and I follow the kids lead. They call my DH "Pops" and my ex "Papa" or "Your dad" or "Brian". So I use whatever term I last heard them use. My ex has picked up my stepkids a few times in a pinch and if I said "your dad" they wouldn't know which dad I meant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your dad. Not divorced. My parents referred to the parent by first name. Go ask Debbie etc..

Referring to the other parent by their first name is strange to me. It feels unnatural and formal.

It feels strange to me when an adult says go ask dad. My husband is not my dad. I have a dad.

Yes of course. But if your mom said it, it wouldn't be strange.

I am the mom. I don’t call my husband dad to the kids. He’s not my dad.

[Anonymous]

Papa

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s always infuriated me / made my skin crawl when people drop the “my” when telling a story or talking about their own family. Your dad is not my dad, my dad is not your dad. Dad isn’t sufficient and sounds weird. “Dad and I went to a nats game” implies you and I share a father.

I’ve noticed it’s mostly with super cliquey awkwardly close, southern baptist type families.

lol, it's "infuriated" you??

You sound WAY too intense, judgmental & sanctimonious
I'm sure you're a real blast to be around.

[Anonymous]

We say dad/mom when talking amongst ourselves. I dislike when people say “mom” instead of “my mom” when speaking with others. It irks me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s always infuriated me / made my skin crawl when people drop the “my” when telling a story or talking about their own family. Your dad is not my dad, my dad is not your dad. Dad isn’t sufficient and sounds weird. “Dad and I went to a nats game” implies you and I share a father.

I’ve noticed it’s mostly with super cliquey awkwardly close, southern baptist type families.

lol, it's "infuriated" you??

You sound WAY too intense, judgmental & sanctimonious
I'm sure you're a real blast to be around.

Ha! I just posted below- I’m completely irked like the pp. I can’t say it’s a geographic or religious distinction because I know people from all walks of life who say this. Btw- I also hate the word “supper”. If a friend said to me “Dad and I went to a restaurant for supper” I would just cower inside.

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that my black friends will say "dad" when they are talking to ME about their father. They'll say something like, "dad is planning a vacation" whereas I would always say, "my father is planning a vacation." I kind of like the easy familiarity of it.

[Anonymous]

Your mom, your dad, my mom, my dad. On their faces or while addressing them, we both call both the sets of parents the same - "Mom" and "Dad" when refering to them, we will name them "DW's mom". "DH's dad". I do not find it odd and neither do the parents. I will never ever call them "Mrs Last Name" or "First Name". Just not done in our culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why, but the difference is interesting to me. In some families, the parents refer to the other with the pronoun “your” when talking to their children. Like, your dad went to the store to get milk. Please pick up your clothes like your mom asked. Your dad will pick you up from school today. In other families, they drop the your. “Larla, be sure to ask Mom first.”

Which do you fall into? Or both, depending on the day?

Depends entirely on my level of annoyance with him.

[Anonymous]

We use your - go ask your mother, your father, your sister, your brother, your grandma.

Sometimes we might drop the your - I might say, what did dad say when you asked him about driving you?

I never refer directly to him as dad when I am speaking to him and he doesn't call me mom.