Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your dad. Not divorced. My parents referred to the parent by first name. Go ask Debbie etc..

Referring to the other parent by their first name is strange to me. It feels unnatural and formal.

It feels strange to me when an adult says go ask dad. My husband is not my dad. I have a dad.

[Anonymous]

i probably use both but I can't stand when other people just say Mom or dad as if we are related.

For example a good friend will be talking about something and says I called mom and she said my sister is visiting or Mom is coming to visit, want to come over to see her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your dad. Not divorced. My parents referred to the parent by first name. Go ask Debbie etc..

Referring to the other parent by their first name is strange to me. It feels unnatural and formal.

It feels strange to me when an adult says go ask dad. My husband is not my dad. I have a dad.

Yes of course. But if your mom said it, it wouldn't be strange.

[Anonymous]

Both, it depends on context.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Yeah, I wasn’t talking about referring to your own father as “Dad” in conversation with other adults. That’s weird and not something I do. I was talking about how you refer to your spouse when talking to your children.

[Anonymous]

With my kids, we use Mom (or Mommy or Mama) and Dad (or Daddy) as if they were first names. Kids are 6 and 8. My parents and I laws will still call each other mom and dad when talking to heir children. As in, “Sorry we’re late, Dad wanted to stop and get a treat for the kids on the way here.” Or if the kids are in the room, “Grandpa wanted to stop and get a treat...”

[Anonymous]

Dad, and DH says Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We use Dad/Mom. Saying "your mom" or "your dad" seems weirdly cold to me. Or like you're divorced.

I'm divorced and I still say dad, not "your dad." "Your dad" sounds like I'm mad at him.

+2

[Anonymous]

For the people who say "your dad," do your kids say "my dad" or just "Dad?"

[Anonymous]

When my dad leaves me a voicemail, he always says, "Hi Larla, it's your dad." Like he would be someone else's dad...

[Anonymous]

Only ever said Daddy and Mommy and still call my parents Daddy and Mommy, too! And I’m in my 40s!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s always infuriated me / made my skin crawl when people drop the “my” when telling a story or talking about their own family. Your dad is not my dad, my dad is not your dad. Dad isn’t sufficient and sounds weird. “Dad and I went to a nats game” implies you and I share a father.

I’ve noticed it’s mostly with super cliquey awkwardly close, southern baptist type families.

I also hate when people do this! He's not my dad, or our dad--he's YOUR dad--identify him as such. Your father is your father, not some universal dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only ever said Daddy and Mommy and still call my parents Daddy and Mommy, too! And I’m in my 40s!

Ha, I was waiting for this. My sister and I do the same. We are in our 30s.

[Anonymous]

I just say Dad, which is a little weird because he's not my dad.

[Anonymous]

Here’s another weird one. My aunt and uncle used to call each other mother and papa speaking to each other!