Husband sleeps in too much

[Anonymous]

My husband works in consulting and works 55-60 hour weeks most weeks. He often has some work to do on weekends as well. My issue is, I can't help but get annoyed when he sleeps in until 2pm on Saturdays and Sundays.

I find it is lazy and I wish we could do something productive on weekend mornings.

Should I let it go? Or nag him?

[Anonymous]

How does anyone sleep that long? He should see a doctor.

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

If you have kids, you need to address this.
If you don't, you need to let it go and do something super fun without him.

[Anonymous]

Find an activity you enjoy to do in the mornings without him.

[Anonymous]

We have kids and my husband does this. I spent years trying to get him to take his turns on getting up with the kids. He would do it for a while, then stop. The problem is that when he did get up, he was inevitably so cranky and awful that it pretty much ruined the day for everyone else.

I finally resigned myself (bitterly, I won't lie) that I have to get up with the kids but when he gets up he's on total kid duty and often takes them out somewhere for a few hours so I can do what I want, including napping. It's not fair, but it's the best I could do. Now the kids are older - 7 & 10 - that they don't need someone to actually get up right when they do. I sleep in for a while (still not as late as he does) so it's better but not through any help from my husband. He's still takes them out in the early afternoon for a while though because I need time to myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband works in consulting and works 55-60 hour weeks most weeks. He often has some work to do on weekends as well. My issue is, I can't help but get annoyed when he sleeps in until 2pm on Saturdays and Sundays.

I find it is lazy and I wish we could do something productive on weekend mornings.

Should I let it go? Or nag him?

When does he go to bed? Does he drink?

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids?

This is critical in answering the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have kids, you need to address this.
If you don't, you need to let it go and do something super fun without him.

THIS

[Anonymous]

Yes, depends if you have kids.

I LOVE to sleep in (but that means until 9 or 10). DH is an early bird even on weekends.

Once we had kids we worked it out so that I got one weekend morning to sleep in uninterrupted. On his morning he was still up early but could do as he pleased for them morning--gym, work, whatever.

[Anonymous]

What time does he go to bed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids?

This is critical in answering the question.

No.

I understand he is exhausted by sleeping in until noon or 1 or 2 is just lazy. Why can't he just sleep in till 10 am?

[Anonymous]

We have kids and alternate who sleeps in. It annoys me on week days. Currently I nurse the infant at 7am, dress him, then leave for work and dump him on DH. DH has to take the infant and toddler to daycare. I enjoy that part because it means he has to get up. No one can ignore a crying infant in their room!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have kids and my husband does this. I spent years trying to get him to take his turns on getting up with the kids. He would do it for a while, then stop. The problem is that when he did get up, he was inevitably so cranky and awful that it pretty much ruined the day for everyone else.

I finally resigned myself (bitterly, I won't lie) that I have to get up with the kids but when he gets up he's on total kid duty and often takes them out somewhere for a few hours so I can do what I want, including napping. It's not fair, but it's the best I could do. Now the kids are older - 7 & 10 - that they don't need someone to actually get up right when they do. I sleep in for a while (still not as late as he does) so it's better but not through any help from my husband. He's still takes them out in the early afternoon for a while though because I need time to myself.

I actually think that’s fair since he takes them out so you get alone time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids?

This is critical in answering the question.

No.

I understand he is exhausted by sleeping in until noon or 1 or 2 is just lazy. Why can't he just sleep in till 10 am?

Help us understand why you care...? Are you bored? Lonely? Unattracted to a man who wants to spend his time this way? Solutions are going to flow from this root cause, because on his end he just sounds tired from a demanding job.