Two family weddings abroad, two months apart....
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Anonymous
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WWYD? There are (2) family weddings planned abroad for this summer, same country, one my side and one DH side. Problem is, they are two months apart. I am closer to my family/cousins (they reside in the country where the wedding is being held), but MIL is pressuring DH to attend her side (destination wedding for them). First marriage for my cousin, second (third?) marriage for DH cousin. My respective relative and my parents are very close, and I have great memories of their visits growing up (we did not travel); DH doesn't really know his aunt/cousins on that side (they reside in CA, but DH has maybe met the cousin once, but not met the bride, and does not remember the aunt).
I think I know the answer to this, just trying to make it so that MIL dos not try to make me the bad guy (as she enjoys doing). |
Anonymous
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Don’t go to either.
Go visit your family on some future trip. it connected to a wedding. |
Anonymous
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Attend the first wedding.
Send a walmart gift card to the 3rd wedding. |
Anonymous
| Each of you go separately to your family’s event. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
Exactly this. You go to your family event. He goes to his. |
Anonymous
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What does your husband think/want to do?
Go to the wedding on your side and MIL can suck it. International travel for a THIRD wedding? For someone your husband isn’t at all close too? No. |
Anonymous
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Well, you could attend your cousins wedding and DH could attend his cousins wedding...
Do you have kids? That would be the only tricky part. |
Anonymous
Yes--please let us know: Are there kids who would be expected to travel too? |
Anonymous
OP here. Yes, we have kids. So, separate trips, in this instance, is not a possibility - because BOTH sides want to see the children. It would have to be one wedding or the other. |
Anonymous
| Usually in my family, we go to the first wedding that invited us. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't drag my kids to a destination wedding. Are you sure the kids will even be invited? I assume your mil will see the kids on other occasions? |
Anonymous
I like this idea. What does your DH want to do? We’ve got your opinion and your mil’s Opinion but what about him? |
Anonymous
If his side is a destination weddinf, is it possible to bring kids to see that side at different time? If not, go to the destination wedding and while you are there extend your trip to also go see your side of the family in that country. |
Anonymous
| I’d go to family I was close to and decline second. If MIL wants to pay for 2nd-let her but have either just DH go or have her send entire family-but just spend least amount of time needed (again on her dime.) |