Two family weddings abroad, two months apart....

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Anonymous wrote:You all go to first wedding. Drop kids with your parents to stay a month with them. You & DH return to pick up kids and attend the second wedding as a family before flying back home. That way kids don’t have to go thru jet lag x 2, and you save on one round of tickets for the kids.

If feasible and kids are over age 4 this is brilliant. The kids will have a lovely experience and memories to last a lifetime.

My parents are not physically able to babysit for a month? And they live in the states. OP here.

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Lol, right?

I'm always baffled when I see people offer this as a solution to a problem! Who are these people who are old enough to be fully retired and no other obligations (such as caring for their own elderly parents), yet young and spry enough to have the physical energy and patience to deal with young children non stop for a full month? All to accommodate the whims of their adult children? My parents and ILs would never, could never!

Well I’m the one that suggested it, obviously before OP clarified to say her parents don’t live in the country where the weddings are to take place. We know a lot of people who send their kids to their home countries for the summer to stay with the kids’ grandparents or aunties. We currently live outside the US, but send our DS to stay with my parents in the US for several weeks during school breaks. My parents are in their 70’s, fully retired, healthy and capable of (& happy to) care for grandkids. Not such a weird suggestion and great for language immersion and creating bonds that are otherwise hard to foster from afar, IMHO. But sounds like OP has her mind decided so flying arrangements/home stays aren’t a question anymore.

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For the record, I know a certain set of grandparents, 70's and 80's - who are more than happy to travel the world every year, but would be a petulant mess if asked to babysit for three hours even for a funeral in the immediate family, never mind a week or month for a wedding!

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Anonymous wrote:Each of you go separately to your family’s event.

This.

Exactly this. You go to your family event. He goes to his.

Agree.

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Anonymous wrote:You all go to the first wedding. DH can go solo (or not) to the second. Done.

This is what I would do.

Same here.

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Anonymous wrote:You all go to the first wedding. DH can go solo (or not) to the second. Done.

This is what I would do.

Same here.

+3 Just visit the extended family before the wedding so that they can also see the kids and not complain about you not being there. I wouldn't feel guilty at all about attending the one on your side and not the random, not-close extended family 2nd or 3rd wedding one on your DH's side. Would be a whole different ballgame if you were equally close to both and they were both 1st weddings. It seems clear to me.